Why doesn't my daughter enjoy being a baseball scorekeeper? She is selfish, isn't she?

Question

I had volunteered my 10 year old daughter this summer to be a scorekeeper for a local minor league baseball team.

At first she seemed to really enjoy the job and spending time at the ball park. However, she did make quite a few mistakes in scoring the game initially. I really had to go out on a limb to get her this job and didn't appreciate her taking it so lightly.

Eventually I stepped in to help her while she and her stupid mother went on a vacation to the Lakes. That was disappointing, but tolerable.
What was NOT tolerable was my daughter then failing to return to scorekeeping with an improved attitude and ability.

I had her watch 3-5 hours of baseball a day. My goal is to have her work for the local team after High School. Why doesn't she see this as a great idea? Not only is it an interesting career for her, but it would allow me to get into the games free.

This is NOT satisfactory, and I am beyond broken and betrayed at my daughter's lack of faith in my vision

WJ,

My lady. I am only curious on getting perspectives from these people. This is NOT the former Soviet Union, and I WILL engage in my right for free speech and getting advice for my daughter.

Good day to you!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Are you for real? Based soley on your avatar, you seem quite grim. Why are you so bitter and domineering? If I was your precious 10 year old daughter, I wouldn't want to do that either!

Wow. You sound horrible.

Answer 2

Volunteering is usually done by the volunteer...not by someone else.
Clearly, your daughter would not have volunteered for this job on her own.
As a concerned and loving father, you know that children sometimes do not share their parents' view and/or desires.
I would strongly recommend against any 10 year old deciding on a career at such a tender young age.
Also, if she does not enjoy it, then it will not be a good job for her.
Be patient and loving, Papa. Ask her what she likes to do and try a much lighter mood when you spend time together.
Someday, she will know what she wants to do for a career...and you can be the supportive father that helps her realize HER dream.

Perhaps you should work for the local team....it sounds like something that you would very much enjoy!

Answer 3

I'm afraid you've answered your own question. YOU volunteered her, YOU want her to work with a team after high school, and it's YOUR vision.

I agree that an idle mind is the devil's workshop. Therefore, we must find positive and constructive avenues for our children to express themselves. However, the best way to handle this is to realize that although she is 10, she is her own person. Ask her what interests her--no not regular girlie things such as shopping or chatting on the phone. That's a given. I'm talking about something constructive such as instrument playing or drawing.

My son tried his hand at baseball, football, basketball, etc. just like all the other teens in his school. He was average at best. I stood in the crowd and cheered him on knowing he wasn't up to par. In the end, he found his talent--YMCA swim team. It's a proud feeling seeing a child succeed utilizing his or her natural abilities. Perhaps, there will be a NCAA scholarship in it for him. If not, then at least his passion would have been realized. Not mine.

Afford your little girl the same opportunity and remember she's "daddy's little girl" not "Jr."

Answer 4

OK i like seriously hope that you are kidding...., this is just horrible what your doing to her,,, so what if she doesn't want to be the score keeper in baseball games, and your really just using her to get into free games?. Not to be mean or anything, but dude, YOU ARE A TERRIBLE FATHER! I'm not joking..

You expect a little 10 year old girl to want to follow your dream?... what b.s. is that!,,, you need to give her some independence and let her do what SHE wants, not you!,,,

And you cannot force her into doing something that's your vision, let her do what she wants, your just being a total jack *** making her do something you want her to do,,,, And you are forcing her to watch baseball, in order to follow your dream?...
Let me rephrase something that you said,,, "My goal is to have her work for the local team after high school".,, "Your goal"????????!, This is your kids life , not yours!

,,And you actually, really, volunteered your own daughter into a job that she hates, without even awarring her, or talking to her about it,,.Dude i swear, if i were your daughter i would actually call the cops and have them take me away to a better home than live with you.....



In all,, lighten up and give her some independence,,,,
I am not joking, you are a seriously horrible father,,,,

Answer 5

You are pushing her into doing something she obviously doesn't enjoy... And you're going to end up losing her if you keep it up.... She doesn't need to spend 3-5 hours a day watching baseball!!! She is a child and she should be doing fun things like being out with friends....YOUR goal is not what she wants to do and to her, scorekeeping isn't an interesting career....It sounds like to me you want it more than she does , so why don't you be the scorekeeper?!

Answer 6

Wow, you are a complete and total selfish A$shole, and I pity your daughter for having to live the rest of her life as your offspring.

Your daughter probably DOESN'T LIKE DOING IT
Therefore you shouldn't push her too far in doing so.
She also probably hates watching five hours of baseball a day, and would rather do something she excels at and enjoys doing.

You're forcing your daughter to do this so you can get into games free, and believe me, whether you think so or not, SCORING BASEBALL IS NOT AN INTERESTING "CAREER"
for a ten year old.
You're absolutely out of your mind and you should have faith in your daughter's vision. She shouldn't have faith in yours.

Why don't you support her in doing something SHE likes, instead of trying to mold her into something she's not?

Answer 7

I think you answered your own question when you referred to it as your vision.

When I was achild and my paernts forced me to do something I did not want to do, I did everything I could to resist, not do it or intentionaly screw it up. At the beginning, she may have done her best and not have taken it likely as you claimed. When she kept making mistakes, she may have just thought that she wasn't good at it and then didn't like it.
One may not be able to easily improve his or her ability if s/he does not like what s/he is doing.

It's YOUR goal for your daughter to have her work for the local team after high school. Did you ever ask your daughter what she wanted to do?

Without going into possible unnecessary background, my parents did not permit me to do much of what I wanted, or in what I was interested. Therefore, I spent most of my 20s not knowing how do get into in what I was interested, or even knowing for sure in what I was (am) interested.

I think the best goal a parent can have for his or her child is to let them decide what they want to do and what makes them happy (within reason, of course). I think the more you force your daughter, the more she's going to rebel. Even if she does tolerate this through high school, doesn't mean she'll want to work for the local team. She may just run off to college and never return, or even before that, if you and her mother are not together. (That is what I gathered from the "stupid mother comment; I hope you don't talk like that in front of her as that could alienate her from you.)

Answer 8

I HOPE you are joking. Did you even consider talking to your daughter about HER interests? You are asking way too much of her. If you want to get into the games for free, buddy, then you should think about becoming a scorekeeper. Let your daughter live out her own dreams. Don't tell her what her dreams should be.

Answer 9

I am sorry but this comment is to your additional information. You are right this is not the former Soviet Union, authority figures do not get to decide the career paths of people under them. You need to quit idolizing Hitler and let the girl do something she enjoys.
Just because you want to get into games when you are too cheap to buy tickets does not give you the right to try to make your daughter into your puppet.
If you are not carefull you are going to get your daughter to resent you and you won't get into the games because she won't talk or speak to you once she graduates.

Answer 10

forcing her to do something she doesnt want to will only make her not want to do it even more..she is only 10 she dont need to be working her summer away she see all the other ppl having fun and she is sitting there waiting for someone to score yipppppeeeee that sounds like fun! I think you are the selfish one and calling her mother stupid that is really mature