I have a problem with anger. I tend to "fly off the handle" at times. Could it be the result of a condition?

Question

I'm 22 years old and my whole life I've been the one in my family who has always had the worst temper. I don't know why. I pick fights. I start disputes on the most trivial things. I never mean to hurt anyone. I just give in to the anger and frustration. Even as a small child I'd shout and throw tantrums. I never resort to phyisical violence. I'm violent with my words and hurt the people that care about me most. Then I usually come to my senses and force myself ( even though it's hard to do ) to go and appologise. My sister said to me, "I'm used to the way you behave. It's been this way for 22 years. You don't mean it. It's the way you deal with things."
I hate the way I behave. At times I feel like I have a good reason to be upset and I justify my rage. Most times I'm filled with regret. Any insight as to why I might behave the way that I do would be useful and much appreciated.

Answer 1

Some people seem to be naturally less able to cope with disappointment and anger. It's not your fault but you can do something about it. There are a LOT of courses and websites for helping people manage anger- you can ask a doctor or nurse about a good course near you.

http://eqi.org/anger.htm


That page is worth reading, particularly the part about primary and secondary emotions. Once you know why you feel angry it is easier to solve.

And apologise. Sincerely. Let people know that you are sorry about your behaviour and that you ARE looking for help. You're lucky- a lot of people with the same problem go through life thinking that there is something wrong with everybody ELSE!

Good luck, I hope you manage to get through this.
xx Cara

Answer 2

obviously you have an anger management issue...consider cognitive behavioral therapy, don't let this get out of hand, and it can do that.

Answer 3

try meditation. go to holisticonline.com for more advice on stress managemnet. go for a walk