Is it bad to lose you virginity and your under 18...............(im 20 and im just concerned for my cousins)?

Answer 1

It's normal these days, sadly. I've heard as young as 11 :l

Answer 2

Personally, I think so.

I lost my virginity when I was 23. It was my choice to wait so long. I knew in my heart that any sooner and I would not have been ready to deal with the physical, emotional, etc aspects of it. I'm very, very glad that I waited.

When you're a teenager, you think you know everything and you think you're a lot more mature than you really are. I was that way. I'm now 25 and looking back, I can't believe how immature I actually was.

I PERSONALLY believe people should wait til their at least 20 or 21. But that could differ depending on the person. I just think when you're a teen you're not old enough to deal with the consquences, especially if pregnancy occurs.

Answer 3

It doesn't matter, the answer depends on whether she is emotionally ready or not.
A question that a social worker asked us at school was:
If you think you're ready for sex; then are you ready to have a baby?
Also, ask her if she wants to do it, or does she feel pressured by peers and/or her partner?
If truth be told, most women lose their virginity under the age of twenty these days, however, many give into peer and cultural pressure (just look at American Pie! Now it seems EXPECTED for couples to have sex/lose their virginity on prom night). If that is the case with your cousin, then I'd say it is bad. But if she is sure about what she's doing and is prepared to take responsibilty for her actions then it's not such a 'bad' thing.
Support her, for she is about to take a big step into womanhood.

Answer 4

Sex is not the boogey man hiding under your bed. It is a natural and wonderful thing. The problem is that it is a big responsibility, but so is driving a car, and a lot of other things. Go back a few hundred years and they were marrying off their kids at 11 13, if you were 16 and not married then you were an "old mail". Your cousin needs to be aware of consequences to sex, but as long as they take the necessary precautions to protect themselves from STDs and unwanted pregnancies who cares. They are an adult! Who are they hurting with this? How is it bad? Seriously, how is sex bad?

Answer 5

That really depends on the specific situation. The exact age, maturity, responsibility, and knowledge of the individual are all highly important considerations. Sex is a natural part of life, and a person being under 18 shouldn't automatically exclude them.

If someone is smart, mature, aware of all of the possible physical AND emotional risks and consequences, is willing and able to take all the proper precautions (realizing that they aren't foolproof) and able to deal with anything that might happen anyway, they are ready, even if they are a little underage. Many who are technically adults can't even meet these standards, but they still do it.

Answer 6

Really depends on the persons involved, their maturity, reasons for doing it, the situation, etc.

Why would 18 be a magic number where it becomes "ok" to have sex? Do all 18-year-olds necessarily have better judgment than kids? Talk to your cousins if you're concerned. In the end, it's their choice... so, as well, just try to give them some tips on safety and such.

Answer 7

This is a complicated question. Take a look at what is happening around us. Hollywood and may be some of their friends have promoted the idea of free sex and love equals sex etc.

So a lot of people would go for pre Martial sex and changing partners etc. Usually those who do that found that they value marriage or a relationship less.

Sex / virginity is a special thing. Don't let TV, commercial or culture affect you. Go abstinence till marriage.

Answer 8

It's extremely uncommon to wait nowadays. I'm 15 and plan on waiting until marriage. I hang around a group of about 15 people and there's only two other virgins besides me. I think it's bad. I lose respect for others who can't control their hormones and I would lose respect for myself if I did something stupid like that. No one listens during sex education. They teach some things that shouldn't be ignored. I have morals and I'm sticking to them. The twelve year olds really make me sick, though. What is our world coming to?

Answer 9

I lost my virgnity at 15. I look back on it and realize that as a teenager, sex defined who I was. It controlled every aspect of my life. All I wanted was to "feel good." It was like a drug for me. I was probably not ready for sex because I was still finding myself. Now, more than 10 years later, I am in a healthy, happily committed relationship. At times i think I should've waited, but I realized that it shaped who I have become and am thankful for the experiences it brought me.

Bottom line, having sex at a young age can either be good or bad, it really depends on the person. I always went by the motto that "If you aren't mature enough to buy condoms, you aren't mature enuogh to have sex."

Answer 10

It depends. If you really love the person and you have been dating for about a year and your ready then no. But if you are at a party or something like that then no. I'm going to wait tell my senior year but over half the people in my school have lost it. I feel sorry for some of the people who lose it to someone they don't love.

Answer 11

Depends on if they are ready or not, you should always wait, wait until its something more than just a fling when your younger.... I mean, age is just a number, years ago people got married when they were 13, 14, 15.... I doubt they were ready but they did it... then again times have changed... you really can't tell your cousins if they are wrong or right, only they will know what is right for them.