I have this friend, and she's very popular. Shes rich and pretty. She's on the danceteam and she's always throwing up. Everyone on the team is talking about it, and they all think that she is bulimic. Everytime she eats something she runs to the bathroom. And she doesn't like to eat in public, but when she does eat in public, she binges bad. She'll eat alot. Im sorta scared because I care about this person, and Im kinda upset that none of her so called,"real friends' talked to her about it. I just don't want her to pass out a game or somethin serious. I don't kno how i should approach her because im afraid that i will lose her friendship....what should i do????
2007-11-05 12:26:12 · 8 answers · asked by rscp121085 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
This friend needs help seriously. This is a life and death situation. You should be very blunt with her and get it over with and tell her a** before it is to late. I'm mean she could be going into a turn for a dance and just fall out on the gym floor. Imagine how that will be people screaming and shouting out is she dead and some even laughing on the ground with her! come on you no how high school is.Like she might come to school one day and look like a half eaten chicken bone. or a crypt keeper look alike. Real friends keep it real so just tell her you are concerned about be health and try to get her help as fast as you can. Or if that don't work tell her a** she need to eat more McDonald's. good luck!
2007-11-06 13:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See bulimia, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 39: print; put in open envelope, and give to coach/teacher, to pass on to her parents, with advice to seek therapy, because of the EXTREMELY SERIOUS NATURE (HIGH DEATH RATE!!!) of this disorder. Family therapy (where everyone gets a say, moderated by the therapist) is advised, because bulimia often has to do with the sufferer feeling that the only thing they can control is their weight. They should also consult an eating disorders specialist, and she may have to attend a clinic, but I assure you: IT IS VITALLY IMPORTANT THAT THIS BE ADDRESSED AS A MATTER OF URGENCY!!! Best start now. Because you aren't a close friend, you may be able to call her parents anonymously, just saying that you are concerned for her welfare, the nature of her problem, and that responsible adults have been advised, and they will contact you soon. But then again, the parents might freak out straight away, so it could be better to let others handle them: you must decide, ASAP. They have a right to know: imagine if it was your daughter. If you let others tell them, stress the urgency, and say that you will find out in 2 days whether anything has been done, and if not, her parents will be called. Ask one of your close friends, to ask one of hers, in 2 days.
2007-11-05 13:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Athletes/dancers can repeatedly have issues with consuming problems. From first-hand revel in with an ex-gf of 3 years that had that wrestle, it isn't an effortless subject to manage. Acknowledge that her revel in is exact and detect that she quite often feels a few experience of manipulate from that conduct. Maybe she's driven herself very rough as a dancer, and the aggressive, disciplined nature of that atmosphere does not depart her so much room to "be unhealthy." So, by way of throwing up, she seems like she is "being unhealthy" and "being well" even as when you consider that by way of that movement she keeping her determine. Anyway, that is only a inexpensive conception--your buddy has a a lot more tricky tale, I'm definite. The factor is, you can no longer realize precisely what is going on, and I doubt it is a best concept to intervene except you believe she is going to die of malnutrition.
2016-09-05 11:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by corti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the coach of the danceteam and ask her what you should do or what she could do to help your friend out. If you don't see results soon, go to the school nurse. Tell her about your friend's problem and ask if she can do anything. At least, does she have any literature--booklets about eating disorders. If she gives you one, slip it into your friend's bag. Maybe she'll read it.
TX Mom
2007-11-05 12:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh i had a same situation while i was a senior in high school. my friends and i thought a friend of ours was anorexic, go talk to your guidance counselor first and then maybe they can set up a meeting with you, your friend and the counselor. you may or may not lose her friendship, but its better than her passing out or worse dying from something you could have prevented because no one else was doing anything.
good luck hun!
2007-11-05 12:34:44 · answer #5 · answered by lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell an adult, and ask that you remain anonymous. If she finds out it was you, it can come back on you in some twisted way. Girls are so mean to each other sometimes. But she really can die from this, so you'll be a good friend if you tell someone.
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2007-11-05 12:33:45 · answer #6 · answered by Kacky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're a good friend you'll approach her about the issue. There's really no full-proof way of going about it without getting her upset, but it's something you have to do. I would get her alone and let her know you're aware of what's going on, you're concerned about her and you want to help. She'll probably deny it, let her but also let her know that you're there for her when she's ready. That's the best you can do for right now.
2007-11-05 12:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't go to her, go to your school nurse, her parents, or another adult you trust.
Trust me, she will only deny the problem, and she needs to get help before she permanently damages her windpipe from stomach acid.....or even dies!
2007-11-05 12:34:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋