so im dating this guy,brett, i care about him a great deal but there IS one drawback...hes athiest. i have always been a christian, not a "KILL THE FAGS!" bible thumper mind you but i go to church on sundays when i can and i pray frequently. do you think it will evetually drive a wedge between us or do you think as long as we keep our opinions to yourselves(because we obviously dont agree) we'll be okay? i really hope it doesnt make a difference.....
2007-11-05 11:42:58 · 35 answers · asked by babyblooz88 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think that depends on your view of life. Some people can be together even if they have totally opposite beliefs - it depends on your bond, what you have in common and how important your faith is. If you are a Christian that believes that Christianity is the only way and the only thing that makes people right - then yes you will probably have a problem because that belief system tends to lead to the attempt to convert any and everyone that doesn't feel the way you do about God, the world, or religion. I guess it depends on how important your faith is to you and how important your partners participation in your faith is.
2007-11-05 11:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by Kimbermai 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well most Christians are not kill the ... kind of people anyway. My take as a Christian though on dating is dating someone who is equally yoked to you. Meaning someone who can help you grow in your walk with Jesus as well as you helping him. He not only needs to provide for you financially, emotionally, but spiritually. And if he cannot lead the way an under-shepard of Christ should then there will be definite problems. I mean I am not saying not to. That is up to you and God, and you may be the person that leads him to Jesus, But if you want to become more Christ-like you will need to choose a mate who will lead you like Christ would. Keep your standards high and do not lower for anyone. God has someone for you and it is just a matter of time before He introduces him to you....
2007-11-05 11:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by bobbo342 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well - I don't know how old you are or how serious you are with this particular boyfriend, so this is a difficult question to answer. I think if you are young and in the dating scene just focus on what you do enjoy together and have in common and keep religion and spirituality to yourselves.
If, however, you want to become serious with this person and would date them long term and possibly consider marriage, I think this wedge runs too deep and it will bring you nothing but problems and arguments.
Depends on what you're looking for and your situation...good luck!
2007-11-05 11:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by kleo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will be a wedge. You can't be "unequally yoked." That is the example from the New Testament.
It will eventually catch up and you'll realize that you and he do not have the same basic beliefs.
If you can't agree on the same God or whether He made the world around you how then will you agree on anything?
Thnk about it seriously. It WILL become a big thing later on.
2007-11-05 11:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You already know what works -- not talking about it -- so of course you can keep on doing that.
However, you seem to be worried that the day may come when this tactic will cease to be effective. And of course that's possible. So what do you want to do in the meantime: Do you want to spend a lot of time worrying about something that may never happen? or would you like to put a little thought into why this difference exists in the first place?
Here's a question to begin with:
"X says he doesn't believe in any god. What does he mean when he says that? For that matter, what do I mean when I say that I believe in god?"
Good luck to both of you.
2007-11-05 11:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If Christians allow the emotional or soulish realm to dominate their lives they become more susceptible to the enemy leading them astray through someone (atheist). This area of the flesh should be brought under the Lord's subjection so that Satan does not get the advantage and consequently destroy Christian lives and ministries. So many have failed the Lord because they chose a man or woman over the Lord.
2007-11-05 11:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Šωèé†íé♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a Christian and my husband sort of leans towards atheism but hasn't definitely made up his mind. I think it's definitely easier to marry/date someone who has the same beliefs as you, but it can work otherwise as long as you're both respectful and not argumentative. Also, if you're looking at it long term, you need to be clear about what both of your expectations are as far as taking future kids to church, etc. Just make sure you have the conversations (without holding back) and if you can't do that without it turning into a fight, it's probably not going to work. If you can both talk about it and not get upset, then I'd say it's possible.
2007-11-05 11:49:31 · answer #7 · answered by Lamborama 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being a Christian you should know or look it up or ask the pastor. The Bible says not to marry one who is a nonbeliever and unsaved, or a different religion.
I knew a couple like this and he wanted to marry, she stood her ground and he started attending, then was saved and baptized, then they were married and he attends everytime the doors are open, he is a real believer now. He loved her enough to check it all out.....xx
2007-11-05 11:51:32 · answer #8 · answered by lana s 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"...not a "KILL THE ****!" bible thumper mind you..."
LOL Well I suppose that's good for people to know.
My friend...like any relationship and any aspect of it, I think it's based on a huge amount of respect. If people care and have respect for each other and each others view/opinions even if they don't always agree, then I think anything is possible.
2007-11-05 11:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you don't try to convert each other it'll be fine. Problem is further down the track, one of you may become more strident in your beliefs and it'll be on for young and old.
It's your drawback, not his. Probably isn't an issue for him at all.
2007-11-05 11:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋