is he overreacting??? ( Adult answers only please)?

Question

So last night my bf of 3 yrs called me and started telling me that some1 he know past away...i expressed my sorrow ...but then my mom came in the room(im 21 but live w my parents still) and started talking to me while i was on the phone at the same time my bf was tryiing to make me remember who the person was....neway i was frustrated w my mom but i think i kind off raised my voice to him saying " hun i cant remember" so he got mad at me and took it to the next level saying that i dont care abt hes feeling i dont care about him and he will stop seeing me for the rest of the week. I did appologize but i feel like ive been taken for granted bcz of what he said to me....neway i dont know what else to say to him to show that i did not mean to to yell at him i was just mad w my mom....so what i want to ask u is do u think he overreacted and what should i do to show him im sorry or i did not mean it??Thank you 4 all ur answeres

Answer 1

THere are a few different way you can consider this situation, and which ever way you do will determine the appropriate solution. If you truly care for this guy, who seems to be more cought up in himself, with a " I am more important " mentality, Then you must try to be compassionate towards his feelings and nurture his needs. Something like a mothering, kiss on the forehead, rubbing his back , everything will be ok baby, approach. If you should be fed up with his antics, and he persists to make you out to be the bad guy, peace homeboy out. At this stage of the game, with the both ouf you being so young, matters of the heart can seem alot deeper than they really are. His attitude to you answering him in a curt tone, and not understanding that your mother was trying to say something and it was her you that affected your answer towards him, then he isnt very inderstanding, and he isnt someone you should be looking to get to serious with anyhow. Just a tell tale sighn of a guy who is needy, and possesive, and you would do right by yourself to give him a response ultimatum.
"Either you accpet my apology for speaking to you that way, because it was my mom who influenced my answer to you, and you should understand that, or dont bother waiting a week to call me, just dont call."

R

Answer 2

Yahoo.. only gives you so much words to type.

but from just your description. YES, he is over reacting

the question is though.. have you done other things that could have made him think you don't care about him? Maybe it's been building inside him for a awhile and he's never talked to you about it because it's all "LITTLE THINGS".

remember that little things add up and from personal experience.. I exploded on my husband because of it. But afterwards we concluded that it is a total MISCOMMUNICATION.

I should have talked to my husband about it..
just like your boyfriend should have brought it up whenever he was a little bit upset about whatever it was..

ANYWAYS,
Even if you've never done anything to make him feel like you don't care and even if he did over react just now...
don't get mad at him back because in this case.. you were wrong so if you got mad at him.. it'll only make him more angry because he wont understand all of sudden why you're upset at him now.

Keep letting him know you're sorry and you and him have been in a relationship for 3 years.. I think it's pretty okay to let him know you think he over reacted and if this is about something much deeper than just what you said to him on the phone.

Continue to let him know you're sorry and didn't mean for your words to be so harsh. Don't stop letting him know you're sorry until you know he's alright.. because i'm sure you'd want him to do the same to you...and not just say sorry once and not hear from him again. considering the fact that you two are in a healthy happy relationship.. you two will work it out fine.







then there's the thing you probably don't want to hear...
one of my guy friends told me about his past relationships...
he picked fights with his ex girlfriend over NOTHING.
because he wanted to make it easier to break up.
simple as that.. but i truly hope this is not the case.


Best wishes to you! and remember everything happens for a reason. Arguments can only make a good relationship stronger.

Answer 3

In all honesty sure i think of you're being slightly comfortable, your buddy is amazingly smart to tell you that, sure no longer returning telephone calls is impolite, so guess what i assume he's impolite or in basic terms no longer making a brilliant deal of it. You adult men haven’t met what you prefer from him. in case you initiate getting all huffy with him you’re in basic terms giving him a glimpse of what your dating would be like and that i doubt if he tries to pursue it. in basic terms be great and funky once you discuss with him like ain’t no longer something happen. If women individuals are emotion creatures adult men are very fickle creatures. Don’t be too disillusioned pass with the flow and perhaps concentration on adult men you recognize interior the flesh.

Answer 4

Women can mutlitask...it's a skill we don't have, so if someone is talking to us while you're talking to us we can't hear either one of you. Consequently, when someone talks to you while we're talking to you, we interpret that as you not listening to us. Even once we understand that you actually CAN do both simultaneously, we don't like it...so I understand both your points of view. Besides, in the case of a death I'm sure he would've wanted your undivided attention. Even when you can do more than one thing at a time, sometimes you shouldn't. That's basic "Being Supportive 101".

Answer 5

I think all u need to do is to give him some space and speak to him later. Men, in general, when upset about something, usually react in 2 ways... one is to go "mute" and the other is to over-react. He's just upset about his friend's death. You're lucky that he wanted to talk to you about it... most men just clam up... and you'll be wondering what happened.....

anyway just talk to him later and apologise .... I suspect that he'll say sorry to you too.....

Answer 6

you should have asked him to call you back so that you could both have the conversation at the level that it deserved...

rip on your mom for being insensitive and rude for talking to you as you are on the phone...I don't care whose house it is..THAT IS RUDE..

Answer 7

you said that you were sorry and that is all you can do and for him to say he would not see you for the week is selfish on his part.i think you should rethink your relationship with him if he is that way.

Answer 8

Just tell him that. He will probably get it, but if hes a pr1ck about it, dump him.

Answer 9

send him a link to this page! Then he can read about it and forgive you.

Answer 10

How old are you??? 12????