Okay there is this boy(boyfriend) I have been dating. I am just not sure about some stuff. I like him but I think he is in this for sex. I told him I wanted to wait until marriage but he keeps making advances and keeps bringing up the subject of sex and what I like. Religion is also a problem because my beliefs are not the same as his. He also lives with his ex and I have a problem with this. He hugs her a lot and kisses her and I told him I don’t agree with that. He claims they are just friends and he loves nobody but me. What do you think, should I go with my gut feeling?
2007-11-05 10:47:08 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Our gut feelings are our best friend, Anytime Iv gone against them it always goes bad. Id most defiantly go with them in this situation, Love is about being respectful to each others feelings and beliefs. When a man is in love there is no other women he would kiss but you, And you deserve that love. My advice for whats its worth is at least have a break if you really cant finish it. And see about what you really want. Good Luck honey!
2007-11-05 11:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by vanessa r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably have more of a chance following your gut feeling then you do staying w/ this guy. If he is still hugging & kissing an "ex" that he lives with then they are not broken up. If this guy loves you as he says he would not be doing that. He would also be respecting you & your wishes and not be so persistent. Go ahead & follow your gut feeling & let him go. Besides if he's still hooking up w/ his "ex", I'm sure he's getting some any way. A lot of guys will tell you they love you just to get what they want, so be very careful & do what you feel is right. ps. Does his ex know that he's dating you or is he telling her you're just a friend too???? Stick to your virtues
& morals. There's nothing wrong w/ waiting until you're married to have sex. Any guy that pressures you before you're ready is not worth your time.
2007-11-05 11:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Starr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let's look at it at both sides of the fence yeah?
i) men need sex - if he doesn't get it from you, he will keep trying, but he might also look for other outlets, like his ex
a) if you give him sex, there's a chance that he might just forget about having sex with his ex, then u'll get him exclusively for you, bear in mind it may not work too
ii) its not fair that he lives with his ex, it could very well lead to more things, why is he living with her? is it a financial thing or does he have a choice in this issue? if he does then chances are he still has feelings for her
iii) men can lie too, if he says he loves nobody but u, what are his actions telling you? does the things he do show that he likes u? i.e. does he show u concern? does he look after you when you need to be looked after?
keep me posted, we'll get to the bottom of this together
2007-11-05 10:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG YES! Your instincts are so right. He is totally using you and the worst part about it is, he actually thinks you are stupid enough to fall for this crap. He probably even jokes about you when you aren't there to his buddies. I don't know about you, but I'd be way too proud to let myself look stupid/used, and I have a feeling you might be, too. He's a scumbag!
I had a similar problem with my now ex boyfreind trying to have sex when I told him no, I wanted to wait. He wouldn't listen, so I let him go. Guys who pressure you don't care about you. Who needs that stress in their life? I'm now with someone who respects me. You will find him, just be patient and put yourself out there in places you're more likely to find a guy that has the same beliefs. Good luck girl!!
2007-11-05 10:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a hot potato! If he loved you he'd wait, his woowoo isn't going to fall off it doesn't get any action and if he's pushing you the way you say and isn't getting any from you he very well may be getting it from the ex, he does make it a bit obvious doesn't he? ALWAYS go with your FIRST gut instinct and don't second guess yourself because when you do you'll find you have made a mistake by not going with your first instinct.
2007-11-05 11:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup this is a no brainer, always go for you gut instinct as its never wrong god old sixth sense , this guy sounds like a dog, first of all what sort of man, lives with a ex, and second of all , what sort of guy goes around hugging and kissing his ex, its a two way thing so i 'm guessing she probably still has something there for him as well, it would never work out as your beliefs are different, and all hes after is sex I'm afraid
good luck
2007-11-05 10:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by steven s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not your gut is 98% right. If I had followed my instincts all of my life, Id have a lot less broken hearts! Theres something up if hes living with his ex and still having physical contact with her....Reality is you know whats up, if you didnt you wouldnt even have to question the relationship. Right?!?!
2007-11-05 10:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always go with your gut feeling. But anyone who doesn't respect your beliefs is not meant for you, you need to move on. Find someone with the same religious background.
2007-11-05 10:51:53 · answer #8 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new guy. Why is he still living with his ex? And why do you allow him to kiss her? Also, if he really cared about you he would respect your beliefs and wouldn't push you to have sex. You can do better than that
2007-11-05 10:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by ... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes go with your gut! If he is living with his ex and he is already hugging and kissing on her when your around can you imagine what its like when your not around? I've been in similar situations just go with your gut!
If he is living with her and dating you after they are ex's he could be sleeping with her while dating your and you wouldn't know it.
Go with your gut and Good Luck!!!
2007-11-05 10:52:15 · answer #10 · answered by camarobabe6919 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋