Okay so theres this guy at my school who's very shy but super nice. Last week I found out he likes me. He sits alone at a table during lunch but is reallly friendly when you talk to him for a while. He is really hot and is amazing at soccer and running. Idk wut to do cuz he's not exactly cool or popular in any way. HELP!!!!!
2007-11-05 09:04:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok so i didn't mean it that i care that he's not popular of nething
I just was saying how he was sociallly. No i'm not shallow believe me i've done worse
2007-11-06 09:53:08 · update #1
OK, I have been there and done that. Let me explain what I did when I was your age and not feeling very confident with boys because I was just a teenager and so didn't have any experiance.
Now, please don't take that the wrong way, as I do not mean to insult you by suggesting you are stupid. Far from it, I am sure you are quite intelligent. However, we all have to start somewhere developing some skills with dealing with the opposite sex. They are very different from us and so we can't deal wtih them as we do our girlfriends.
I don't want to give you the wrong idea by saying you can't be friends with males, as you can, as long as you don't mix sex up with it unless you marry the boy. Whenever sex comes into play the relatinship always changes. Suddenly you aren't friends any longer you are lovers. I hope you wait on that for some time. It would really behoove you to do so. Simple fact of life is that boys do NOT respect girls who give out. They date girls who give out for one reason and only one reason because she does give out. No, the boys you want to date need to be fun too, and care about your feelings and want to do stuff you want to do, and you him too.
Now, I understand how it is to not know what to do when you first have a crush on a boy, and he you. It is so awkward and embarressing. You get all tounge tied, and heat runs up your neck and into your face, thus you are now not only unable to speak, but red too! Not a situation which inspires confidence.
Ok, if you don't have confidence, then how do you get past the hurdle of these first few awkward situations? How do you get your tongue working so you can ask him out? Or simply have a nice conversation which will help him loosen up enough to ask you out?
The secret is to "Fake it till you make it". My dad taught me this when I was a teenager. My dad and I had the relationship my mother and I should have had, but didn't. I could talk with my dad about anything. So, I told him basically what you wrote here, that a boy liked me, that I was pretty sure he did anyway, and I liked him too, but we were both a bit shy and unsure what to do.
He told me about Faking it till you make it. Which is basically simply pretending you have all the confidence you don't have. You simply act like you do and then people see you as though you do. Once people see you that way you slowly become that way. So, Fake it till you make it.
Lift your head up, straighten your shoulders, and walk up to him and just start talking like you have been doing it forever, and it is the most natural thing in the world to do. Boys don't talk as much as girls, so he will sort of expect you to chatter away anyway. That is the beauty of boy/girl relationships. They don't talk much and we do, so we always have something to discuss. If the can't come up with a subject, well, leave it to us, we can, easily.
To prepare, simply think of all the things you wish you could say, practice them either in front of a mirror, laughing a lot, and smiling all the time, flip your hair a few dozen times, (boys love that hair tossing stuff) and smile, smile smile!
Talk to him like you would your girlfriend, only leave out all the this boy is cute and this boys has a nice as@, and other really girly stuff like that. He plays soccer, boys love to hear how much you enjoy watching them play, and how good you think they are, and they also love discussingn sports, especially the sports they play. So, after you loosen him up with a few animated and cheerful conversations, get him talking about his sport. Fatter him, boys like and enjoy flattery as much or more than girls do. As I said, treat him as you would a girlfriend. Just smile, act confident, and soon you will be confident.
What will it hurt to give it a try? Good luck and much success learning all the intricate stuff between boys and girls, just leave the sex until you are older and more prepared for any unexpected complications, such a a disease, or a pregnancy. Yes, a pregnancy can and does happen the first time a girl has sex. It all depends on what time of month it is, whether or not you are ovolating, and if you don't know what that means then you are definently too young for sex. lol
Hey, just enjoy and soon you will be as confident as you would wish to be. Just be yourself, don't pretend to be who you aren't, that is taking it too far. And don't try to please him or anyone else to the point you put aside your own dreams and feelings.
2007-11-05 12:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by Serenity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're very superficial person. Why do you care what others think? He's nice and you said he's a hot athlete so what's the deal? Oh wait I see you like the "cool" popular guys that hang out with the "in-crowd" right? Maybe you should tell him that you're not his type. Since he's to real for you.
2007-11-05 09:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by b_solrac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter weather a person is "cool" or not. If they make you smile then you should go out with them. I know what you mean though, if someone in my grade (sec. 2) would ask em out and they weren't "cool" I'm not sure if i would have enough courage. But i know for a fact that if they were some one that i liked A LOT then i would go out with them right away.
Do what you feel but if you're going to say no then have a good reason don't say its because your not "cool" enough.
2007-11-05 09:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-28 00:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by marybeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares if hes not popular be his gf if he wants, sit with him at lunch and talk to him u can even make him popular if hes not shy anymore im telling u if i were u i would
2007-11-05 09:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by Xero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coming from a guys standpoint you may not appreciate it as much as a girls but try talking to him give him a shot. you say hes hot and an athlete. I wasn't excatly popular and i liked this girl and i finally talked to her and now we have been dating for a two months and shes crazy about me
2007-11-05 09:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares if hes popular if he likes u and u like him just sit with him and get to no him and if u still like him go out with him
2007-11-05 09:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by NeverShoutEver! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if i were you i would just forget it and let him find a girl that doesn't care if he's cool or popular...doesn't sound like the kind of guy that should be dating shallow girls
2007-11-05 09:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by prplfae 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should give him a try. its not that hard. if it isnt working end it on good terms and try to stay friends. i dont think it matters wheather he's popular or not. you can be popular enough for both of you <3
2007-11-05 09:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well does that matter to you that if hes is popular or not if you like him just go up to him and im telling you that it does not matter what other people think of that. you do What you got to do
2007-11-05 09:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋