We've been friends for years, and we recently got together. It was easy to flirt and be huggy when we weren't together. Now he says I can hold his hand anytime I want or hug him anytime I want. But I don't want to be clingy. We haven't ever kissed before and I don't know when an appropriate time for that would be.
2007-11-05 08:53:14 · 40 answers · asked by epitome of innocence 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a question that only you yourself can TRUELY answer rather than other people simply because what works or feels right to others may not with you or vice versa. You will know when the time is right. As far as from my experiences... what works for me is to just keep on as normal and when it is ment to happen it will. Where as if you put too much thought into it, you may either jump too soon or wait too long just from worrying over it. Also I feel that having an open line of communication with the other is very important too so both knows where the other stands & feels about things rather than vagueness and therefore less chances of wrong assumptions. I hope this helps and I wish you the best :)
2007-11-05 09:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by nc_dixieman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is no appropriate time to kiss for the first time. whenever this time is, it will feel right. every time is different for every relationship, so i can't tell you when it will be.
it is weird though, that you say he says that you can hold his hand anytime you want, hug him whenever you want.... why is he saying these things? it seems as if he has some sort of power over you, i hope you are not in a weird power struggle or competitive relationship. be yourself, so not try to be someone you are not, don't restrain yourself from doing things you really want to do. if this is really mr. right, then all these weird feelings will go away, as long as you guys can talk about these weird feelings with each other. don't hold back from saying anything you truly are feeling. don't put any communication barriers between you and him. be open with him and yourself.
2007-11-05 09:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by the_wun_hu_nose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't get all nervous and scared now, this guy is your friend! You just keep on being you and go with what's comfortable for the both of you. The worst thing you can do at this point is start trying to strategize and over think everything! Just continue to be you, that's what attracted him in the first place. Also, you'll both know when the time is right for your first kiss, don't rush it, or worry about it.
2007-11-05 08:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that dictates "appropriate" is when you're ready. Move at your own pace and don't feel pressured into moving faster than you want to. Also, you've been friends for quite a while, so he already knows what you're like. If he's saying you can hold his hand and hug him whenever you want, I'd say that's a big hint that he'd like you to do those things but is letting you move at your own speed. Which makes him a pretty good boyfriend in my book!
2007-11-05 08:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kell S 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok....hold his hand whenever possible. Like when you are walking to classes.....or after school.....whenever you are walking somewhere together, hold hands! Its not show-offy like "oh ive got a bf and you dont" its more just like showing your affection towards one and other. Hug him when you see him. When you are leaving him to go to a class....and when you see him after class. So basically hug him after every time you have been parted. but not a huge hug. just a little light one. then maybe like one huge hug once a day. now the whole kissing thing will be whenever you feel its right. but hun, personally, i want you to make the first move. not him. it shows him you are serious about you relation ship. no dont go like making out with him on the spot, lol. Just maybe a good time would be when you are giving him a hug just lean your head against him. say i love you in a whispery voice (not loud and show offy) and then when you start to part gently grab him on both shoulders and at first just give him a peck on the cheek. then if he gets the clue, he will go in for you. if he doesnt, just look at him in the eyes, lean in, and once you start he will know what to do because it will just feel right.
2007-11-05 09:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start off with small kisses as a thank u or a good morning.
stay away from sex. i don't know how old u r but most boys ditch ya a couple of days or wks aft because they had u.
u r right not to be clingy but hugging and holding is very important in a relationship no matter how long u have been together or hold old u r.
hope this has helped.
best to you.
2007-11-05 08:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take it slow, let it happen naturally. There is no time frame for when to do things. You do what feels right for you. Be natural, and be safe. Have fun and enjoy your time together. It's nice that he is letting you know that you can be affectionate with him when you want to be.
I agree, you don't want to be clingy. Holding hands is a nice way to be affectionate without too much of a display.
2007-11-05 09:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by england562 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so cute. Try this to break the "1st kiss" ice. Initiate an old game with a new idea. Ask him for a quarter. Ask heads or tails. Then say, (if he picks heads) Heads we kiss, tails we don't. But be be fun, keep flipping the coin till it hit`s what he picked -S
2007-11-05 08:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by CulinaryCad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let him take the lead, you aren't gonna seem clingy to him. Since he wants you to hold his hand anytime, just feel free to do it! He wants to make sure you're interested in him too!
2007-11-05 08:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by Stache Man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just take it easy don't rush into anything. This is your 1 st boyfriend don't go and spoil it by doing some thing that you will regret for the rest of your life. Good luck and enjoy being young.
2007-11-05 08:58:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋