My boss lost someone very close to her in death, is there anything I can give her other than money? Like a gift or something? I am going to give her some cash as well to help with her expenses, but is there any appropriate gift for that?
2007-11-05 08:44:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would like to thank all of you for your help with this, I appreciate it.
2007-11-05 14:00:23 · update #1
Give a donation in the name of the deceased friend. Did the person die of a specific disease... aka heart attack, etc.? The Amer Heart Assoc will gladly take a donation in the name of the deceased and send a letter of thanks and acknowlegement to your boss. Was it an accident? A donation to the deceased's church for use in purchasing Bibles (or whatever) in her name is a good idea. Even a donation to a local food bank in her remembrance. There are SO many options out there! Even most hospitals have some sort of "patient care" or assistance program you can donate to that help other people in need.
Do you know the funeral home where the "arrangements" are being made? Give them a call... most times, part of the information they have is where the family wishes "donations in lieu of flowers" are to be made, and they will be glad to inform you.
If you still wish to give some sort of gift, the funeral home might help there too... the "Memorial Book" could be something you can "purchase" for the family.... Maybe a nice frame for a photo of the deceased to be displayed at the funeral... the funeral home staff is usually very helpful in this manner. They might even have a "personal suggestion" that they seem to see that most families could use but never seem to get.
Even the purchase of some nice "Thank You" cards AND some postage can help later on when the family is ready to send their thank yous.
My sympathies to your boss, and the friend's family... and to yourself... afterall, you DO hurt for your boss!
Have a polite day.
2007-11-05 10:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by wyomugs 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My thoughts and prayers go out to your boss. Contrary to what some may think, money can be very welcome at a time like this. People do not realize the financial burden that funeral expenses can bring; however, do not stop with the money aid; one of the best gifts in times of grief is to show that you care: a phone call, an invitation to eat out, a visit to spend some quiet time with your boss while being a good listener so she can unload the pain. You will be rewarded.
2007-11-05 11:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by Fast Papi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A box of your boss' favorite chocolates and a very nice sympathy card.
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Send a bouquet of flowers with a nice sympathy card.
2007-11-05 08:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Kitty-Cat Lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At times of loss, some people need to feel closer to their friends and relatives. Tell your boss that you want to help in whatever way you can; let her know that you are with her emotionally and that she isn't isolated. You might offer to do errands or chores or anything that she finds difficult to deal with for the time being. She ought to take comfort in the feeling that she isn't as alone as she feels she is at this time.
2007-11-05 09:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jay R 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We got a lot of food when my aunt died. Sort of takes away the trouble of having to plan a meal or two. It's not much, but it is something nice to do.
2007-11-05 09:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by mcq316 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The handwritten note that gats girl suggested sounds good.
2007-11-05 13:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A nice sympathetic card with a nice hand-written message is appropriate. You can have your family sign it along with you.
2007-11-05 08:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by gatsgrl 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I usually send a nice potted plant. It is something they can keep forever.
2007-11-05 08:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by forthefun_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give her money for god's sake. I wouldn't.
2007-11-05 08:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋