Why is it that people are having a hard time establishing relationships? If they look for love, they cant find it?
2007-11-05 08:38:22 · 11 answers · asked by mitchchan 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all love isn,t something you can by at your local 7-11 store . second of you first have to define the meaning of which kind of love you are looking for . because you could love your car,bike clothes, in one manner you can love your mom,dad,sister,aunt,or uncle in another manner . also are you looking to give your love to somebody,are you looking for somebody to give you their love. or do you want both ,to love and to be loved ? also , the love that you want does it have to include sex , does it not matter? also the love you are looking for ,is it short or long term? i could go on forever asking you different questions ,therefore showing you that what might seem like a simple question,is really very complex just as love is very complex because love is a life long desire of ever body you see love also involves many emotions. love can feel the greatest at times ,but love can also make you feel like you just want to die, love can be inspiring one moment but then the next ,make you to just want to lay around and want to do nothing .You see every body wants love when they don,t really understand what it actually means to love .You see,true love is kind ,caring,understanding and most of all what many people foreget and most of all is that love is unconditional!!!!! you see ,I could keep going and going just like the energizer bunny ,but I think you got the message just remember this ,LOVE is all around us ,and you can see it everywhere you can always give it . And can never be gotten for yourself .Unless it is recieved from others And you probably thought you had a simple question??? LOL
2007-11-05 09:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by tazmatic1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whys no one knows. I think because we tend to settle do to feeling lonely or just wanting to be in a relationship. And when the real one comes were taken. Just because we chose not to wait till someone we cared about came along. Then we have to deal with the relationship we are in.
If we are just dating it's easier than if we are married and with children. This is why I think many people end up divorcing. They settled because they thought they would never get to meet their true love. And any time they meet someone that they feel an attraction they don't have with the one in their lives they think it love. At times it's just lust.
True love goes beyond lust. True love is being with that person and feeling all is well. You could spend the night and have sex. The sex wasn't good but it seems good. Because just being with them and being able to share with that person is all that matters. You know your in love when your happy if they are happy. You hurt if they hurt. And rather than see that person suffer you wish it were you. That's true love.
Now finding it is the hard part. Some people do find it. But take it for granted and wear it out. And like all things not looked after it will die if not cherished.
2007-11-05 09:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW I was pondering this same question today! I been single for a 1.5 now and was wondering why I was single then finally I have just given up on going out on dates and such and just wanted to be single and now for the past 3 weeks I been seeing this guy and things are going so great! It would figure I meet a guy when I was not really looking
2007-11-05 08:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by amanda h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When most people are not looking to date anyone they tend to let their guard down and have more fun, but it just so happens that people find that more attractive than someone who is trying to hard.
2007-11-05 08:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by Stacy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because when you are looking for love you are trying too hard and are not being yourself. As soon as you let your guard down you let people into your bubble and are able to be yourself.
2007-11-05 08:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by starmeluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WoW, after 50 years I still have not figured that out !!!
Mine always happened when i least expected it to.
Must be the subcounscious mind working too heard that we cannot listen to our hearts.
2007-11-05 08:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably. But I only come on at night, and I'm usually multi-tasking. So maybe not.
2016-04-02 06:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk thats a good question. its like the same thing as "a watchpot doesnt boil."
if you go looking for something, you might not find it. but sometimes you do, if your lucky
but right when you're not looking, its all over the place!
its what we want, that is hard to find but what we need, will find us.
2007-11-05 08:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you look for love, your looking for what appeals to YOU.
When you let love find you, it gives you what you NEED.
2007-11-05 08:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by Zakennayo :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's murphey's law hon. you just can't get around murphey's law no matter how hard you try...
2007-11-05 08:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by Heather Honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋