This question may seem petty and stupid, but I need some advice. I am a 17 year old girl, never had a boyfriend, and I have been very upset and frustrated lately because I don't have any feelings for anyone. The last time I had a crush was when I was 14, and it was on a boy just because he was cute. I'd never even talked to him. I'm deeper than that now, but I've been frustrated that I don't have feelings for anyone. I'm pretty sure I'm not gay, but is it normal for a 17 year old girl to not have feelings for anyone? Granted that I really have no time to get to know any boys, but shouldn't I at least have some sort of a crush? Is this a normal thing? It seems like most girls like someone every day of their lives...I'm afraid I'm not capable of love or even little feelings anymore. I'm tired of being upset.
Please, a response is much appreciated. I'm sorry if this question is petty--I'm really not so petty normally--but I'm confused and upset and I want some advice or opinion. Thanks!
2007-11-05 08:30:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I certainly don't think you're petty. It sounds like your head is screwed on straight. You shouldn't be upset. those other things in your life that are taking up your time are probably much more important than getting involved right now. When love comes along, you'll know it, girl. Good luck!
2007-11-05 08:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by Charles WE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's that strange if you're busy. Watch some romantic movies like "Memoirs of a Geisha" or something, and see if you get emotional watching it. That may spur something in your personal life. Sometimes when you're just not thinking about a relationship very much, nobody appeals to you. For example, I used to be a total fool for men, but since I got married (my husband was my first "real" boyfriend at the age of 18), I haven't been looking around at all. It seems like it's just something you're not allowing yourself because other things are a higher priority. It's not petty at all, human interaction on an intimate level is FAR from petty. It is a REAL long shot, but it's possible for a person to be asexual (not attracted to men OR women), but if you're wondering about it or unhappy about it at all, I'd say that's certainly not the case. Maybe you just have very high standards since you've grown into a woman!
2007-11-05 08:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by Fuckette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her and check out and get her to speak to her moms and dads... By her speakme to them offers her extra choices on wether or no longer she needs to hold it and even adoption she has extra choices now than she is going to later. Her moms and dads will discover out ultimately simply be certain it isn't to overdue. And be a well buddy and check out and support/advisor her to make the offerings she needs and no longer what any individual "needs" her to do for the reason that she am has to manage it in a while in lifestyles it doesn't matter what she comes to a decision... And like the lady earlier than mentioned her moms and dads will develop to the proposal and sure there is a hazard they're going to unfastened it however the will not hurt her or the youngster. So inspire her to make her selections so we can advantage her eventually.
2016-09-05 11:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by gillies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal. It just shows that you are using your time wisely and going around looking for people. Just be yourself and sooner or later, Mr.Perfect will come for you. Remember you always will have family and friends to be with. Don't go looking for a guy, it will most likely end up really bad. Plus you are only 17! You should be focusing on your studies anyway. Have fun doing other things: friends, sports, movies, games, whatever. Do something!
With lots of love and care,
Good luck!
2007-11-05 08:37:55 · answer #4 · answered by stranger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breathe relax....Actually you sound like a very mature 17-yr old ..its not uncommon that you may not have a crush on or be interested in anyone...Don't worry one day you will be minding your own business and then out of the blue someone will grab your attention ....Don't worry just keep doing what your doing let nature take its course
2007-11-05 08:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by meka33311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone's life and emotions run on their own time schedual.
Not every girl is infatuated all the time.
Girls that do not give their hearts eaisly are often the ones that have the most to give, and will find a true soul mate later in life.
2007-11-05 08:35:16 · answer #6 · answered by keezy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to have a crush on someone 100% of the time. You're only 17. You have your whole life ahead of you. Plenty of time so you can stop stressing out.
2007-11-05 08:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have no worries...if you're not finding anyone worthy of your attention -- it just means you haven't meant one yet. I don't believe in the whole soul mates deal...it's a matter of instance and location of people meeting and from there it's making it work.
Relax, get out there and socialize, someone will strike your interest.
2007-11-05 08:35:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine not to like any1 u dont have to and if u make ur self like a boy u will end up being even more frustrated than ever take it from some one who knows
2007-11-05 08:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by Haley :) 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its just not your time
People fall in love at different times in their life and I know that this might seem really weird to you that you don't have a boyfriend but i promise you that later in your life you WILL find that someone special when it is your time
2007-11-05 08:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋