How do I tell my mom that I have a boyfriend??

Answer 1

Well, it really depends on a number of issues. Such as how your mom feels about boyfriends at certain ages. Another concern is how close you are with your mother, and if she treats you with respect, by listening to you when you need to talk with her. If she tends to react harshly, that makes things very difficult for you. If you not only have a boyfriend, but are now engaged in sexual activity, that is another situation, and she may not react well to that, but you need to make sure you are protected. In my state we have Planned Parenthood, where children twelve and older can go and receive the tools they need to protect themselves from both pregnancy and VD.

It would be the best possible situation if you could avoid sexual relations until you are in your late teens to early twenties, only because you would be amazed at how much more mature you are, even if you don't believe it now, and have a much higher ability to make good choices. I don't know what you age is, but if this is your first boyfriend then you may be young. I am not as concerned about your youth, as I am about your being safe. I would prefer if all us girls could respect ourselves enough to not engage in sexual relations until we were truly ready, but the facts of life are different, what with how young girls are now presured so much to start at ever younge ages.

However, the topic is how do you inform your mother of this boyfriend. Depending upon your situation, I would simply tell her. Just pick a time when she is not stressed and in somewhat of a good mood. If she gets mad, tell her you could have withheld the informaiton, but as your mother you thought she should know, and that you really want to have a relationship where you can talk to her about stuff like this.

Moms like to hear stuff like that, trust me I am a mom of eight and I loved it when my kids trusted me enough to talk to me about their lives when they were teenagers, because that is the roughest time for kids and parents alike. Parents feel like they are losing their little kids, and kids feel like they are suppose to be adults now and all independent, and so avoid talking to their parents during a time of life they need them the most. Believe it or not, but parents were once your age too, and they do have a lot of experiance,and most usually want what is best for their kids.

So, just talk to her and let her know you have a boyfriend. She will most likely appreciate your going to her rather than keeping it from her. I know that if I were your mother, I would be very happy if you came and talked with me about stuff like this.

It is the responsibility of the parents to make their teens feel comfortable enough to go to them with issues such as this. However, parents are just people too, and they are just as human and make the same mistakes other people make, so don't be too hard on yours.

Good luck and much fun learning the ins and outs of dating! Have a very nice day.

Answer 2

Ask her to explain her first boyfriend to you and find out all the facts. There is a good chance, her story won't be much different than yours.

Answer 3

tell her " Mom I'm pregnant" when she freaks say "Just kidding I only have a boyfriend" . Maybe that will put things in perspective for her.

Answer 4

say "mom, i need to tell you something. I met this guy, and hes really really nice...so do you think we could go out???" And do something really nice for her so that shes in a good mood. Then ask her.

Answer 5

first of all how old are you...cause that does matter if you are young i wouldnt tell if your an older teenager than just tell her no big deal but otherwise when i got my first bf i honestlly didnt tell my mom i would just ask her if i could do stuff with him and she eventually got the picture and didint bother me about it.

Answer 6

give mroe details...
how old are you?
is he your first boyfriend? (i'm assuming so)
what has your mom said about boyfriends in the past?

Answer 7

Just say it...like ripping off a band-aid. It may sting for a moment, but then it's all good.

Answer 8

How old are you? How old is your boyfriend??

I say come right out and say it, what's the worst that can happen??

Answer 9

walk up and tell her, or out of no where in the middle of a conversation

Answer 10

You shouldn't have to if she is not an understanding person, if she is, then just tell her and she will be happy and proud. ☺