My boyfriend and I have been dating 1 year and I know we've got a long way to go. But sometimes it's fun to talk about what we would name our kids if we had any or how many we'd want and things like that. I never say I want them now and he never says a lot about it. He'll play along, but I just hope I'm not creeping him out. Guys, is it a huge turn off to talk about kids this early on?
2007-11-05 08:21:23 · 15 answers · asked by Brandi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It all depends on the guy, really.
Some guys are okay with it and some guys aren't.
If your guy seem alright with it, then that's all good. Just don't overdo it with the kids stuff. You don't want to scare him away eventually.
2007-11-05 08:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should talk about kids early on so that there's no misunderstanding. If you're not in agreement on the subject you're looking at a lot more hurt down the line. On our first date, my husband and I both stated that neither of us wanted children, and figured out what to do in case of an accidental pregnancy (which abortion clinic to use, who would pay for what percentage etc). I suppose we did something right since we're celebrating our 15th wedding anniversary on Wednesday and the 20th anniversary of our first date in the spring. But if the issue hadn't been addressed until we were more committed, and if we'd discovered that one wanted children and the other didn't, it would have hurt a whole lot more than simply not having a second date.
2007-11-05 08:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Fraggle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I have talked about having kids many times, but they do get freaked out. He will let you know when he is ready. My guy just wants to make sure he has a financially sound career and that we have bought a house and are at least engaged before deciding to get married. yes, that is a long way off.
2007-11-05 08:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by bonstermonster20 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop creeping him out. Why are you needing to name kids when you don't have any plans to get married yet? Knock it off.
The time to talk about that is if he proposes. Don't answer that question until you know how you both feel about having families and how many. Guys don't like too much pressure.
2007-11-05 08:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by psi2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been dating that long, I would think it was serious, and why waste time on someone if you want kids, and they don't. Those are the things that need to be talked about, the serious life events that are part a relationships.
2007-11-05 08:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 09:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's way too soon to be talking about that. I think you should both be on the same page (if you want kids, he should as well), but beyond that, save the 'what name do you want, what school should they go to, will the twins dress alike' conversation for when you're engaged and/or married.
2007-11-05 08:26:12 · answer #7 · answered by xK 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-11-05 08:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by m.donov 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why most women want kids.
They rush into marriage, have kids,
then they get divorced.
Then when I look on the dating sites,
the majority of women over 30
are divorced with kids.
It pretty pathetic in my book.
2007-11-05 08:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by andybosik 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl and it would totally freak me out if a guy I was seeing talked like that. I would be running away.
2007-11-05 08:29:11 · answer #10 · answered by munchkin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋