Last year my strings teacher at school told the class that he was horny and it kind of freaked me out a little because thats not something a teacher usually tells a bunch of 7th graders (mostly girls) class. He said it kind of quietly though so I'm not sure how many other people heard it. I have him again this year and he hasn't said anything else since that one time. He does however tend to come pretty close to me when I ask him a question and helps me play my violin which involves coming from behind me and putting his hands and mine while I play....which is a little too close for comfort for me. He does this to a couple people but I feel like he is doing it more to me than anyone else. Hes like in his 50s by the way. Should I be scared or am I overreacting??What should I do?
2007-11-05 08:06:13 · 20 answers · asked by ... 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
trust me I'm trying to get attention, I'm dead serious and its kind of freaking me....thanks for all your answers, I'll report him
2007-11-05 08:23:18 · update #1
I heard him say it
2007-11-05 08:24:39 · update #2
**NOT trying to get attention
2007-11-06 01:05:40 · update #3
I hope to God you are not serious. If you are you need to report him. Tell your guidance counselor, parents, principal or another teacher you trust
But if you're doing this to get some attention from people, please be careful because this is someone's career and life you are messing with.
2007-11-05 08:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by Bandit_ 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Did you hear him say he was horny? Or did someone else tell you that he said it? And are you sure he said it...you said he was kinda quiet...and why didn't you bring it up then? Waiting is not good. You should have said something to an adult then if you were positive he said it. Next time don't wait. If he did say that, there is cause for concern.
Also, I would think it is normal for a music teacher to help you out that way.
I would be very, very careful in how you proceed with this. Even suggesting he might be a "predator", whether true or not, can ruin his career. Being in his 50's has nothing to do with it.
On the other hand, you want to keep yourself safe. I would suggest you never go see him alone for help, that way he can't try anything with you.
If he does touch you or say anything which is clearly inappropriate tell your parents or another teacher IMMEDIATELY.
2007-11-05 16:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Youve gotta be really careful though, if he seriously didn't mean any harm he'll be branded a kiddie fiddler forever. If you have a guidence counseller at your school it could be a good idea to talk to them alongside your principal for some extra support, but if your feeling uncomfortable then do something about it now before it has a chance to get out of hand
2007-11-05 16:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should definitely be scared. if he is making you feel uncomfortable while helping you or in any other way, i think you need to tell somebody in higher authority than him, because if you tell him he might not do anything about it or he might provoke you even more. i play the violin and for somebody to help you they do not have to come behind you or touch your hands while playing. you need to tell your parents about this teacher, and i thin your parents need to set up a conference with the teacher, the guidance counselor and the principals of your school to get down to the bottom of this.
2007-11-05 16:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by lil mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should say something to the school counselor,not about what you over heard, but that you uncomfortable, and if there is anything that can be done. If she asks why, you should tell him/her the reason. Your feelings are valid, and if this is something that effects how you live your life, and get your education, then you owe it to yourself to be honest. It may turn out to be a misunderstanding, or it may turn into a big deal, but honesty is always the best way to go.
2007-11-05 16:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by frameliner 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell from my keyboard esactly what he's doing, but if you feel uncomfortable, then you need to do something about it. I would suggest you talk to your guidance counselor about the situation, or talk to your teacher himself. He might not even realize that he's making you feel uncomfortable. Don't just let it go. Work it out instead.
2007-11-05 16:10:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jason 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your parents and whomever is in charge what he said, and tell them you do not feel comfortable around him. You should also request to be put in another strings class with another teacher.
2007-11-05 16:15:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.. i just read this in seventeen magazine, and it talked about how many teachers are actually sexual predators.. many more than we think.. now i'm not saying for sure he is, but i'd tell a trusted adult.. maybe your parents, a teacher, or a guidance counciler....
good luck!
xox lauren
2007-11-05 16:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by peace love lauren<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd blow him in before something happens. Don't say anything to him. Tell your mom your dad and your principle. Don't let it go undone. Teachers can be replaced, especially perverted ones. Innocence can't.
2007-11-05 16:10:15 · answer #9 · answered by Slow Hand 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm.... he sounds weird. I think that if you are feeling uncomfortable that you should switch classes. Ask them to switch your teacher and if they ask you the reason let them know and tell them that you just feel uncomfortable. Also maybe give your parents a heads up. Trust me it might be the best thing.
2007-11-05 16:10:32 · answer #10 · answered by bnm0044 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋