Why do parents restrict their children from seeing certain people and doing certain things when it makes the child only desire the restriction even more?
2007-11-05 07:48:20 · 16 answers · asked by [192882] 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It's not MY parents. It's a friend's. And if you only knew how truly insane these people are. She's restricted from everything, and soon from me.
So it makes her want to rebel more, and soon she will explode and the details might not be that pretty.
2007-11-05 07:57:46 · update #1
Ok.....Parents want the ability to be able to control their kids. They want to know that they can determine when thier kids make good decisions and want to prevent them from making bad decisions. I am a student minister so I see and talk to a lot of these type of parents. If the son or daughter can keep an open form of communication open with the parents, that might help. When the parent feels that the son/daughter is potentially making a bad decision, they feel the only way to fix the problem is to take it out of the equation. Therefore, if a person takes the possibility of hanging out with a friend, they feel that they are controlling what their son/daughter can and cannot do. To the parent thay are protecting their child. To the kid, they are putting to many rules on them and thay are too strict. Communication is everything. If you as a kid can talk with your parents about life, they might understand you more and what you are going through and most importantly....what your intentions are.
2007-11-05 08:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by Swine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because my parents knew more than I did...Basically knew some of my influences weren't too cool...definitely knew, they would get me into trouble, maybe not intentionally, but indirectly at times. For instance, had a real curfew of midnight even as a junior/senior in highschool. Thought it was so unfair...no one else did...I grumbled a lot, but invariably, there was some sense to it. Mom and Dad had to work the next day often, or do life things...They couldn't be worried about me not being home and safe. Its the way parenting is...you give birth and its never the same, you love that child, worry about them and protect them...and that is dear, as it should be. Annoying at times? You bet...got easier as I got older. Naturally, like you, always wanted to do what I wasn't allowed to do...when in fact, it wasn't always a good thing and I just didn't see it. You see, my folks had the life experience, I didn't...they knew things, I didn't. That's why, they WERE MY PARENTS AND THE ADULTS!
Sincerely,
Grace
2007-11-05 08:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I as a parent don't restrict to much from my children. I have two older children that were exposed to many things in life. From people that live on the streets to drugs that are out there. Now at the ages of 18 and 22 they are thankful that I didn't hide life from them. They ( I think ) are able to make better informed decisions with there life. Both have done quite well in school and in their social life. The oldest tried many drug out there. Only to realize that it wasn't for her. She talked to me each time she did some kind of drug. I did not judge her for it but supported her with any advice. She now lives on her own and without the use of drugs. I owe this to being honest with my children and not hiding anything from them. To the parents that are out there that like to hide life from your children--- Are you hurting your children or protecting them? Shouldn't they know what is out there.
2007-11-05 08:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it is the parent's job to protect the child and make the decisions about who and what the child will see and experience. The parent is responsible for the child until he/she is grown, so the child is called upon to respect that authority until then. Most kids don't like it, and want to go off and do whatever they want, which only proves my point.
2007-11-05 07:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right we as parents do restrict our children from seeing certain things, their whole adult life they will be bombarded with images and thoughts that as children they do not need to see, why rush it and why take away what innocence they have. Children are only innocent for so long, meaning we can only protect them for so long we just want to keep them as innocent as possible before we loose the chance to.
2007-11-05 07:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Main, my parents restricted me from doing almost everything like homosexuality, and I wasnt allow to talk on the phone to the opposite sex but its funny cuz Im not into the opposite sex.
Parents want whats best for their children but one day that child is gonna have to live his or her life and make their own choices. Its really not good to over restrict children to make their children believe what the parents believe. Every parent thinks that their way is the best way and thats why they restrict their children but whats gonna happen is that the children will do it anyway.
2007-11-05 09:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
They are trying to do everything they can (or know how) to protect their children.
Rebelious behavior leads to children wanting to defy their parents to do restricted activities or meet with people they aren't allowed to, but what other choice do parents have?
2007-11-05 07:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by Malina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 18 years of being a child.
72 additional years as an adult.
Play by the rules and do as your told you will notice you're given more freedoms.
By exploding she is only hampering her efforts to independance.
2007-11-05 08:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by J W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They do it because they think it's best for the child. It is up to the child to realize this. If they don't they will desire it, and parents know that too. But they do hope that maybe this time the child will listen to them.
2007-11-05 07:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by TaDaa! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
protection. plain and simple. kids always try to rebel, but should realize there is a reason their parents are restricing certain things, and it's not because they are being mean, it's because they love their children
2007-11-05 07:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋