So lets say my best friends'- friend of 8 years tried to hook up with my boyfriend when we were in a fight and date him?
She knew better and was aware that we were still "together" but just at a rocky point.
She still has the audacity to come into my work, or contact my roomate and say that she "didn't know."
When she actually did know.
I haven't said anything to her or tried to hurt her back.
I feel like I'm a sucker for that reason.
Am I?
2007-11-05 07:20:59 · 49 answers · asked by KAS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say you need to confront the boyfriend with ultimatums, and if his answers to your honor are not satisfactory you need to start over.
Your best friend is in a tough spot. She may know about her friend's interest in your boyfriend but be too far out of the loop to stop that leech from trying to get your man, if he's still your man.
You are wise not to be unclassy to the leeching girl, but the boyfriend is deserving of a few cross words if he's encouraging more from her. It's either you or the leech. Good luck.
2007-11-05 07:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your so called friend will stab you again if she has a chance,You should let her know that you are aware of what she tried to do.Tell her that you thought she was a good friend and you only consider her as an acquaintance now on as you don't want that kind of friendship with her any longer.If your BF did anything then get rid of him too.If not keep him and be proud he turned her down,She shouldn't get away with this and you would be a sucker if you didn't tell her so
2007-11-05 07:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by mamaw2305 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend is not worthy of your friendship. She tried to seduce your boyfriend at a vulnerable moment. If your boyfriend was mad at you he shouldnt have done anything sexual with her if they did then now you know he dont care bout you and obviously neither does she.
She knew she just wanted him the first chance she got. Your not a sucker you just need to trust 3 people in your life ME MYSELF and I. Keep in mind "Friends are like snakes, you can nurture them, be by there side, and love them for years but they can still turn on you" (from the movie Alexander the great)
You always gotta watch your back. Try talking to her to see what wher her intentions and if she liked your bf for a while and if she did then keep her away from him and try not to be so close to her. If she denys attempting to have a piece of your man she obviously is trying to mess up your relationship so she can have one with him.
dump her i say. just like Lauren did on THE HILLS (on mtv) she went thru the same thing you did. Do what she did, dump her and keep a distant friendship and stay with your man to work things out. She tried to take advantage of him because men have a hard time controling their animal instinct when they are in a vulnerable situation.
2007-11-05 07:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by tootsierollroad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be reallllly mad if I were you. Don't try to get back at her, that just shows you're on the same level (which is where you DON'T want to be) and ignore her. If you and your boyfriend are meant to stay together you will. If not then you will be okay and move on. So will he. In the mean time, remember even tho that girl was your friend in the past she's definitely not acting like it now. Talk to her if you still want to be friends tho.
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Kassy
2007-11-05 07:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Kassandra♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By not trying to hurt her, you're being the better person. She doesn't deserve to be your friend and if and when she does confront you all you need to tell her is what she did wasn't right, she ruined your friendship and you don't need people like that in your life. If you know for a fact that she knew he was your b/f, then don't give in to her. She showed you what kind of friend she is.
Make sure you give your b/f props for not going along with it also.
2007-11-05 07:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A real friend wouldn't go after your boyfriend. She sounds like a vicious, immature friend. Also, you should consider dumping your boyfriend as well for being equally guilty (if he loved you, he'd have pushed that "you know what" away). Life's too short to hang on to negative, uncaring people. Enjoy dating multiple conquests, buy a new dress or do whatever makes you feel sexiest, go out to dance or whatever you like, and show those 2 losers what they lost out on. That's how I'd retaliate.
2007-11-05 07:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not a sucker you should always be the bigger person in a situation like that, but the issue does need to be brought to her attention b/c she needs to know what she did was wrong in your opinion even is she doesn't agree with it and the boyfriend is just as guilty as the friend if he accepted any of her advances
2007-11-05 07:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by ~Cheta K.~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump them both neither one of them are good enough for you. You are not a sucker, I know you feel the need to punch her face, but trust me when she finds out that she threw away a good friend over a man...it's going to hurt her even more. It has nothing to do with you, they are both sorry. Heal and move on!
2007-11-05 07:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by goodgirlabout2gobad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be her friend what kind of friend goes behind your back and talk to your man.The fact that you and ur guy were having problems doesnt mean she could interfear.A girl like that is not worth being friends with.But before you cut her off make sure you have all ur facts put together.
2007-11-05 07:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to be the bigger person and walk away from it. Besides, if you genuinely believe that you're an attractive female, let her have him. You can do better anyhow.
May not be the best advice but hey, I'm a realest.
2007-11-05 07:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by Charmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋