I have 11 months old son... we are thinking about having another one after he turns 1. Maybe like when he is 1 years old and 2 months... Do you think it is too early? Diaper mode? and etc? I need your opinions and advices..
In my heart, I really want to have another one soon so my son can have a closer age sibling.
2007-11-05 07:02:55 · 15 answers · asked by Melissa B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
That is TOTALLY a personal decision..everyone has reasons for the difference in ages..
2007-11-05 07:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by madsmaha1 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I really don't think theres a correct answer here.. and alot of people are going to tell you it depends on what you want. But I have 3 sisters, 2 half-sisters and 1 full-blood sister. My half sisters and I were 10 and 8 years apart.. but my full blood sister and I are 22 mths apart. so thats about what you are looking at, so my mom must have gotten pregnant with me when my sister was 1 or so. It was great growing up, we were soo close, always had someone to play with, as we got older always had someone to talk to, and we're still close to this day, she's my best friend.
Some people think you should wait 2-3 years before even trying to have another one, but what happens if you cant get pregnant right away and it ends up taking a year to conceive then by the time you go through the 40wks of pregnancy then you could already be looking at almost 4 years difference between the siblings.. I think its harder for a 12 and a 8 year old, or a 16 and a 12 year old to relate then it is for a 12 and a 10 year old or 15 and a 13 year old. Just my opinion. I am currently almost 39 weeks and I think I would like fall pregnant when my first is one.. Good luck!!
2007-11-05 07:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by Sharpie211 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what you as a parent wants. I know people who have had kids less then a year appart... I think kids being barely a year appart is crazy... I think 18 months-2 years is a good range... My sister and I are 3 years appart (she's older) and for the most part we always got along. There were some times though when I was like 12 and she was 15 where it was hard. I think it's good to have them close enough so they always have someone there for them and someone to grow up with. My sister and I are best friends now... But on the other side of that, my daughter is 2 and I'm definately not ready to have any more children, so there is going to be a pretty wide age gap between her and her future siblings.
2007-11-05 08:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by Boston 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an 11 month old and I am due anytime with my 2nd. (both girls) ... They are only going to be 11 months apart and although I wouldn't recommend it, I couldn't be any happier! My daughters ped. told me that a woman should wait at least 2 years before becoming pregnant again so your body has had time to get back to the way it's supposed to be. But I think it's a person's personal choice.. If you want another baby now, go for it....You are going to get many different answers on here but you have to do what is best for you and your partner.....My husband and I wanted our babies to be close in age (although 11 months apart wasn't what we had in mind, but it happened)....On the diaper situation and etc., I think if you're financially stable to take care of 2 babies, then I don't see a problem.
2007-11-05 07:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by I ♥ my irish twins! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister and I are 2 1/2 years apart and we are very close. My children are 2 1/2 years and 2 years and 6 days apart and they all get along well and play very well together. But I guess that it just depends on you and how much you can handle. Diapers for 2 are expensive but if that is not a problem and you really want them to be that close together then go for it. Just remember to listen to your doctor and your body. Make sure that you are completely healed from your first pregnancy. Good luck.
2007-11-05 07:13:45 · answer #5 · answered by motherof3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...I found out that I was pregnant with my 3rd on my daughter's 1st b-day....it was hard to potty train her because she saw him in diapers. She reverted back to a lot of stuff that she was over after he was born...like wanting a bottle....being upset because I had to carry him around but couldn't carry her (cradle carry). And she was young enough to NOT understand that she could hurt a baby by simply touching him wrong. (I caught her trying to lay on him a few times) And she went from sleeping in her own bed to wanting to sleep with mommy and daddy (because the baby had his crib in our room)
My sister and I were 18 months apart...we didn't get along at all....
If having two children that close in age doesn't scare you (because having more than one child in diapers isn't a picnic and they don't always need changed at the same time). It's also quite expensive....(because you're buying two different sizes)
But it's more a decision that you and your husband should decide. And make sure you talk to your Dr and get his ok as well. And start taking pre-natals BEFORE you start trying.
2007-11-05 07:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that the closer the better... I have 4 children ; my first three boys are all a year apart. It got a little crazy now and again, but now they are all teens and they are also best friends. My daughter was born 6 years after my youngest son, and she gets lonely for a family member closer to her own age. If I coulda I woulda had another child after her but for health reasons it was impossible.
I feel fortunate to have had three boys and then a daughter because the boys are really protective of their sister and are great playing with her.
2007-11-05 07:34:25 · answer #7 · answered by g-gurl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well with myself and my 6 brothers & 3 sisters the ages range from being 13 months apart to my oldest brother and me being exactly 20 years apart....lol lol My parents did pretty good we think....
With my own children my first 2 (twins) and my youngest there is 15 months.....If you and your husband both agree ( what you can handle "together" diapers,bottles etc.) then having them close together is really neat or least it was for me....Good luck
2007-11-05 07:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by vickie b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever's best for u! No one can tell u what's too close. Only u know what u can handle. Me personally....I want to wait until my baby is 4 or 5 years old before I have another. Good luck on whatever u choose!! =)
2007-11-05 07:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an incredibly personal decision. There's no one certain answer. If, in your heart, you want them close together, then have them close together.
I have a 3 y/o, a 17 m/o and a 3 m/o. We manage just fine. Other people think that's too close together. To each his own though. Do whatever you want.
2007-11-05 07:11:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i read some where 5 years but i dis agree, it is a personal choice and each family is different, follow your heart, my children are 18 16 13 2 1 we are very happy
2007-11-05 07:17:42 · answer #11 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋