My boyfriend (23y/o) and I (26 y/o) have been together for about 2 1/2 years, and we've lived together for over a year. For the last week and a half or so he hasn't really had sexual desire for me. We used to love having sex and were intimate often, and I know he was happy with me as a lover.
He says he loves me very much, but he is nervous about our level of commitment and is starting to panic about being with the same woman forever. He feels like he may regret not being able to "sow his wild oats". Being older I had a chance to be more sexually adventurous, and being a female I just think differently about sex, so I'm just so hurt and baffled. He says he loves me and doesn't want to give up on the relationship, so he's going to try to work past these feelings.
I am wondering, do guys get over feelings like this? Do all men feel this way? Is it even worth it for him to try and fight these feelings? How do other women deal when their men pull **** like this?
2007-11-05 07:01:10 · 6 answers · asked by natasha the sleuth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What a schmuck. I mean, honesty with your partner is generally good, but this isn't productive.
As to your questions, yes most guys get those feelings and they get over them by realizing what a stupid thing it would be to throw away a lifetime of happiness with someone for a few meaningless flings. I can't speak for other women, but I'd guess that most of them don't have to because they either are busy getting burned by guys who did act on it or have guys that had the sense not to act on it or tell them about it.
2007-11-05 07:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
My ex-man said the same thing after 3 years, said he would try to work past it, then ended up cheating and shattering my heart into pieces. I don't know why men feel this way, but it's very hurtful. I'm a very suspicious person now, and I hate that because before I was very trusting. Just make sure you guys end the relationship before something like that happens, unless he can truly work past it.
2007-11-05 07:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you have here is basically the problem occurs when two people who are not really really committed having sex. Unless he wants to marry you, give it up. Time to look for something serious. Now how you get to the point where you make that decision is not to be done overnight. You need to tell him what kind of future you see but you understand he needs to mull it over. But you need to get this decision made in the next 6 months.
2007-11-05 07:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think men do need to.My boyfriend did almost the same thing..I am 35y/o and he is 39 y/o.After my divorce i have dated more than him and he broke it off because he wanted to see other people to kinda make sure what we had was real. I was very hurt at this but glad he was being honest with me. We still see each other now more than before. Good Luck.
2007-11-05 07:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh, if only they could sow them at 23 and then decide they like the ones in their own yard the best :0
unfortunately, everyone else's oats start looking tasty at some point to men of all ages
tell him if he wants to play in other fields then he needs to leave the farmhouse first
2007-11-05 07:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men are biologically polygamous, women monogamus.
2007-11-05 07:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋