I haven't dated in 12 years because I just haven't found a girl that wants to be with me. I catch hell all day everyday from coworkers, friends and what little family I have left. Why does everyone make such a big deal out of it? I tell people it will happen when it happens but people still call me gay or a weirdo. I don't understand why people get so worked up over it. There are people that go a lot longer than me without being with anyone. So what's the problem?
2007-11-05 06:53:59 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I mean 13 years but that really doesn't matter.
2007-11-05 13:36:29 · update #1
Dont pay any atention to them. You do things when you feel it is the right time. Sometimes they dont understand that if you force things to happen it will only become worse. Dont mind them and you do what is right for you... it dont matter if you wait for daiting and other things. Only you know yourself better than anyone else. Dont pay attention. :)
2007-11-05 07:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem. It's called being celibate. If you would like a relationship and you're not having luck,then perhaps some kind of counselling is in order. Is your personality O.K., or is there honesty/denial issues? Are your manners OK? Are you selfish or demanding? Do you want someone to just walk up and enter your life, or are you making an honest effort to find someone? If you've chosen celibacy, let others know that you like the single life and please don't bug me any more. There's no law that says you have to date/marry. The world is terribly over-populated, so please don't feel you have to have kids--that's not only selfish, it's stupid. The world would be better off with about 2 billion fewer mouths on it. Good luck and take care.
2007-11-05 07:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who hasn't been with a girl in a long time and I love the guy. He is awesome....But....You have to understand that a girl isn't just going to fall into your lap. You have to try to get out there and meet new people without being picky. It sounds to me like you just gave up on looking. Just try to try a little harder and go out sometimes. If you just take chances than your friends won't bother you any more. If worse comes worse just tell your friends to f**k off and leave you alone.
2007-11-05 07:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by carqueen66 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love the tone you take in the way you write. It tells me that you frankly don't care that you've gone 12 years with no loving. I think you already have your answer. The answer, spelled out simply, is that you have beat the system. Eventually, you will meet someone when you least expect it. And when you are engaged to that special girl, your friends will all be dating whatever skanks they can pick up at a bar. I say good for you, and congrats on not letting it get to you.
2007-11-05 06:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by largegrasseatingmonster 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm ... I married a man who hadn't had a girlfriend in 13 years, and had never had a 'real girlfriend' (one he could introduce to his family, or went out on more that three 'casual' dates with) ... and he is the BEST MAN IN THE WORLD for me. So, is there 'something wrong' with you ... NOT for the 'girl of your dreams' who may be just around the next corner.
I know ... people told me to NOT 'go with' my now husband because the 'knew' he was gay ... guess what ... he's NOT GAY ...
2007-11-05 06:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by Kris L 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a long time to be on your own as an adult. If you're fine with that, who cares whay others say about it. If you really want to have a relationship with someone, I hope at least that you are doing the things to make that possible. Hanging around your house every night watching tv isn't ever going to get you a GF.
2007-11-05 07:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let their endless chatter get you uptight. There's nothing wrong with waiting for the right woman to come along. Believe me, lots of people would rather be in your shoes than to be 'tied' down with lame girl/boy friends & husbands/wives. Hang in there, you're bound to be taken soon!
2007-11-05 06:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by WonderGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u think its a prob then yea i guess. but if not its ur life not theres. but just a lil advice u cant just sit around for twelve years and think that the girl of ur dreams is gonna come knockin on the door. go out have fun and you need to experiment with different girls to see if they could be the one. if u dont have a girlfriend ever how u gonna find the right one??
2007-11-05 06:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha1029 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want to date, then you don't want to date.
It just seems like it's natural for people to jump into relationships whenever the opportunity arises. My boss at work told me he hasn't dated in years, and I thought that was odd, but it's really just your preference...
2007-11-05 06:57:05 · answer #9 · answered by scary mary 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not you; it's the world around you. Everything has become political, even your dating status is political. When people start accepting gays then this harassment should die down. When people stop obsessing so much about sex then this harassment should die down. You can tell how much you'll be harassed by the bills in office.
2007-11-05 06:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by ameeker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋