So...I dated my manager.
Eveyone found out..and he ended things.
Should I quit?
I love my job and everyone..but its hard to see him..
on top of that he went back to his ex...
2007-11-05 06:42:01 · 31 answers · asked by SUPERMODEL* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 19years old and he is 28.
2007-11-05 06:49:55 · update #1
If you quit, he wins. So don't quit. Chalk this up as a life lesson and forget about it. If people ask, say "We did date for a while, but things didn't work out."
2007-11-05 06:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by monicanena 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Zing
You should write a novel about how dating your office mates is a REALLY bad idea.
You had the perfect job, and now everyone ridicules you, and the guy you were way into, used you as a refresher while he got his feelings back in order for his ex. Good job.
I don't think you really have a choice. What can you possibly do to a) get people to ignore the situation, and b) stop feeling for your manager, when he clearly is not that into you anymore? NOTHING.
The only thing you can do is wait it out and hope you don't get canned, at which point, eventually, after a year or two, people will forget, or not care (provided you leave it alone), and you will eventually get over your manager.
However, the most likely thing is that this is going to really affect your work and you won't be able to wait it out. Start looking for a comparable job somewhere else and keep your relationships outside of the office.
2007-11-05 06:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by largegrasseatingmonster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if it's hard to see him as in you can't bear to look at him...then maybe a new job would be the best option. If you just can't see him as much as you used to, then that's just something you'll have to deal with if you like your job. I'd be taking my co-workers into consideration here the most. Do they resent you for it? Do they not care? Do they think you were unprofessional? You should take their opinions into consideration the most because they're the ones who you're going to have to be around the most now that your..."fling" is over.
2007-11-05 06:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by soulprism2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never mix work w/pleasure. But, if you like your job, why quit. You made an error in judgement..everyone does at some point. If he leaves his EX again; leave HIM alone..but, keep the job. It;'s show that you are mature enough to understand your error, but, not dumb enough to lose your income over "an Ex"
2007-11-05 06:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Carol (Yeah I said it!) G. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another job...but relax; you have time. You probably can't get fired at this point, because if he did, any lawyer worth his salt would have them over a litgation barrel.
This is, however, a good example as to why office romance should be avoided, especially between superiors and subordinates. Now you feel weird, and for what?
2007-11-05 06:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by Night Owl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Silly girl...you should not have gone out with him in the first place. Whatever were you thinking, as no one goes out with other Office Staff...its a no no from the start. I have seen this before in my working days and one always got a bad name, as there is always that certain person around who starts to talk and before it is finished you have the bad name ....not him. They are nothing but vane men who always know they can sweet talk you into anything...plus everyone else in the Office....stop it now as it will end in tears.
2007-11-05 06:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol always the general real bussiness and pleasure dont mix.. well just think of it as if u had a slight accident.. say u walk then u fall then u get u and u go.. so what if u two works together u love the job u do what u love not do what u lost
2007-11-05 06:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by striker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your guys own fault everyone found out. Now it will probably be awkward at work not only between you and him but also betweenyou and other employees. Maybe you should quit. If he gets a gf she will probably stop in at work from time to time and that woudl probably bother you.
2007-11-05 06:45:48 · answer #8 · answered by chillinginchicago 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation. Only not nearly as bad. I dated my manager....except no one found out and we broke up mutually because we never saw each other. If you love your job you shouldn't quit, unless its just TOO hard to see him. I say just be friendly to him, and not bitter.
2007-11-05 06:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In our lives we make small or big mistakes, that was one , do not quit!!!! the issue was with a person, not the place.. "separate job and personal things" find some other activity, that will keep you mind away from it....love you !!!
2007-11-05 06:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋