I already have a question posted about how I can't seem to actually get moving to be ready for my new baby even though I'm really excited about him and it's a planned pregnancy. But has anyone else ever felt completely absorbed in their first child with their second pregnancy? I can't seem to get enough cuddles and time in with my son. I feel completely obsessed with my son. I hate even sending him to school right now. I just can't get enough of him. Everywhere he goes in the house I feel like a lost puppy and have to follow him. I am always babying him and buying him new stuff and I haven't even bought the baby I'm five months pregnant with a single thing. I imagine some of this attachment is hormones because I cry everytime he says he loves me or if I get a headache he tries to make me lay down and wants to take care of me. He's an awesome kid.
2007-11-05 06:12:48 · 5 answers · asked by Emily 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I also know some of it is guilt and worry. His father left us when he was three and joined the Army. However he and his Dad remained close with phone calls. But his Dad shipped off to Iraq on Halloween and he asks about him everyday.
My son is really close to my husband though too. And we are all really lucky to have each other. But my son ( 6 years) doesn't understand why his other Daddy wont call him.
2007-11-05 06:27:17 · update #1
Probably hormones, probably love, probably just worry. You may be worried that when number 2 comes you won't have enough time for your first one and you feel guilty so you're just loading up on it now. Your hormones are probably part of it. I'm 16 weeks pregnant with my second and my when my first one (2 years) got scared the other night and had a hard time going to bed, I cried for him. I feel the same way about never getting enough time with him. Don't worry, all will be okay.
2007-11-05 06:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by accent_01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 19 weeks with my 2nd, and my thing has been being afraid that I'll love my first child more than the baby. I felt so bonded with my daughter when I was pregnant with her and I dont feel the same this time. Everyone has told me that this is so normal. It makes sense, since I know my daughter and have a relationship with her. I know that when this baby comes I love him too and feel just as bonded.
2007-11-05 14:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was pregnant with my second child I was happy at first. Then I felt really guilty because I thought I was ruining my childs life. She was losing that one on one she had with me (my oldest). It took a while for it all to sink in. But after my second child was born I realized how much my oldest loved and accepted her. Now they are best of friends.
2007-11-05 14:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be feeling guitly that soon you will be sharing yrself with another child i for one found myself in almost the same issue my oldest was 4 when my 2nd baby was on his way and i felt that i owned her so much of my time and i made sure i gave it to her, but things will fall where they need to it will work out i promise.
2007-11-05 14:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep. i thought, how can i possibly love another baby like i love jaeden (my son). i didnt think it was possible. now im pregnant with my third and now i know, there will be enough love for all of them and itll be equal.
2007-11-05 14:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Tessa♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋