My boyfriend lives about 3 hours away from me. I love this guy to death. But I have met some one that really makes me laugh and smile. Now my boyfriend has told me that it was ok if I saw someone else but it just doesn't feel right to me. I am not going to talk to this guy for the time being because I don't want people to start talking and then everything will get back to my bf but this other guy and I are really good friends. I don't want to be putting him off forever. What can I do?
2007-11-05 04:42:10 · 18 answers · asked by Lacye F 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may have said "Sure, go ahead, date other people", but how would you feel if you said that to him and he did it? I think if you love him, you wouldn't consider dating anyone else. There's nothing wrong with having a friend who makes you laugh and smile - good for you, that's what friends should do. It becomes a problem when you no longer look at him as a friend.
Tell your boyfriend you've made a new friend but he's a guy, and would he be upset if the two of you hung out? Keep your boyfriend in the loop. But the instant the relationship between you and the friend stops being friendly and seems to go in another direction, end it - or end the one with your boyfriend. Don't lead one of them on (or both of them) because in the end, you can only have one.
2007-11-05 04:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why, did your boyfriend say, it was alright if you saw other women? Does that mean date, someone else or what? Did you also respond that it was ok if he saw other women? Or does it mean, he would take it for granted that by allowing you too, he to has the right? Just curious, because i find it unusual for a guy to say that to his girlfriend. As no one ever realy plans to fall for someone else, if they have someone they consider a significant other. That's why most couples tend not to allow it, because that often happens or leads to cheating. Does this other guy, who really likes you, know of your boyfriend? and why would you be worried about people talking and it getting back....it's not cheating at all, if your boyfriend volenteered his outright permission for you to have affairs with others, what he gave to you, he did so knowing, that you know he is taking the same rights. How could anyone see that as cheating, it is an open relationship where anything goes. I think it's weird but great that 2 people can feel that way and still love each other. Go for it, why miss out on the fun, especially when it comes with guilt free approval.
2007-11-05 13:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by ferochira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your boyfriend trusts you very much, so don't take advantage of this and betray him. Eventhough there is no harm for you to continue seeing the other guy but i would recommend that you stop seeing him at the time being. Whether you continue seeing this guy or not is not other's business and you need not worry what others have to say but you do need to think whether you are able to "control" yourself if you keep on with this guy, at this point of time your feeling is very vulnerable so it's a wise move for you to stop communicating with this guy.
2007-11-05 12:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by chesney c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the other guy you want to be friends and see what blossoms but if ur bf said it was ok he might be testing you or it is ok either way friends make the best couples anyway stay good friends a see what unravels because it will soon enough!!!
2007-11-05 12:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there could be a few answers to this.. your boy friend says its ok so one he trusts you and f-- everyone else and what they think, or your bf is seeing another girl and feels it will make it all right if he tells you to have Friends..
there may be a snake out of the bag
2007-11-05 12:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by cliffie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide what you want here. Do you want to continue the long distance relationship with your boyfriend, or do you wanna try things out with this guy that's closer to home?
Date one, be friends with the other...its not fair to lead both guys on.
2007-11-05 12:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel wrong about this then it is wrong. Technically, since you have your BF permission it is NOT cheating. But know that since he gave you permission....he expects it in return. Really I think you two are putting off the inevitable breakup.
2007-11-05 12:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget it. who would you rather have! you have to decide. drop the stupid guy who makes you laugh and smile. f*** that. Your boyfriend loves you very much and he would be very hurt if you ever did anything, even hung out with him. You need to decide if losing the love of your life would be worth some comedy..I think not.
2007-11-05 12:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Ciavana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are interested in another guy, you should break it off with your current boyfriend. Otherwise, it would be considered cheating. You can't have it both ways.
2007-11-05 12:47:05 · answer #9 · answered by Shubunkin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not cheating unless you act on your feelings. you need to be honest with this new guy and tell him that you are in a relationship, and also tell your bf that you did meet someone. you have to go with your gut instinct. what do you really want from this new guy? what do you want from your bf? in the end you have to live with your decision and yourself.
2007-11-05 12:45:44 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Thang 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋