ALL opinions needed!!?

Question

ok so... my life is DRAMA so i WAS with a man who is in the military and anyways he has 2 kids so id be a stepmother and anyways his freakin WIFE who i thought was his ex is still married to him and he got caught because he used THERE emergency credit card to call me collect so she called me and informed me about everything and so i called him and asked and he said that when we met he decided to go through with the divorce and that is true he moved out and let his wife stay in there house and basically he has lied to me about EVERYTHING pertaining to him and her but with me i belive he loves me and he wanted his cake and to eat it to. they havent been together for awhile since weve been togethere but i guess my question is is how much would you put up with until it wasnt worth it?? i feel betrayed and hurt and dont know what to do and have no one to talk to he was the one i told everything and he feels like **** which of course because he got caught and will lose me if he doesnt change

and so the rest of it is that he told me that she lived 3 hours away and she lived twenty minutes from him!! we are LONG DISTANCE he lives in florida and im in arizona so ut was a bit easy for him to do that i just dont understand why u would keep lying about his wife, i mean be a man and grow up he hurts the people that love him teh most i jsut dont understand and need a few opinions please??

Answer 1

Understand this man may have developed an emotion for you but I don't think you can call it love. He's lied to you. Snuck around and has children that can ultimately be caught in the middle.

You weren't telling the truth to. You weren't worth the trouble of going through all the drama. If he loved you forreal he would have offered ALL of himself to you not the parts that wouldn't scare you away. These are big indicators that though he's ending a marriage and will be free, he may not be able to handle a relationship right now. And what sense does it make to jump from one relationship and then into another.

He's ending a marriage meaning he is walking away from a woman who he at one point thought he would spend his life with. That requires time to heal. Time he wasn't spending on that because he was with you. Understand that though HE may feel detached he may not be. He may still have some things to work on.

Why is the marriage ending? Find out all you can about all that he's hidden from you.


REALLY WHAT IS YOUR QUESTION???

Think about that because you might really already know the answer to what you're trying to gain a justification for.

You should consider yourself worth more than a man who doesn't think you worthy of the truth.

Answer 2

Sorry, Lacie. This guy is bad news.

What you sow, you reap. If you stay with him, how long will it be before he cheats on you with another woman? In other words, now you're the other woman. Next time there's "another woman," you'll be the lied-to wife.

You didn't know what trouble he was when you started out, but now you do. He's like a splinter to you. Painful. Pulling it out will be more painful. But the longer it festers, the more infected it will get and pretty soon everything and everyone near "the splinter" hurts.

Get rid of it now, so you can get on to finding a man who has enough of his own money to call you!

Answer 3

I think you've put up with quite a lot. If you really does love you then wait until he divorces his wife and has been at out that relationship for at least a year. I don't think he is worth waiting for though, he has lied to you about some very important things. Will you ever be able to trust anything he says to you after all of this? If it were me, I wouldn't.

Answer 4

Girl, I had the same experience once. So take it from someone who have been there. You do not want to waste your time with this ungenerous, crafty, no honor, loser. Yes you got it. He is a loser. I know it is hard to bear that you would have been so volatile and stupid. However, there is hope. Do not waste any more time with him. Someone out there is waiting for you. Please pray and wait a while, believe in yourself, knowing you have allot to offer the right person. God can give you the desire of your heart. It is VERY VERY hard I know this but hold on there are allot of wonderful guys out there who will not try to con you or make you feel like you deserve anything but the best. Sister give yourself a chance for better. Let the loser go to his wife.

Answer 5

All the lies you've heard so far ... I would be out the door and not looking back. It's not worth it anymore, and I think you know that. It's time to end the relationship; long distance is hard enough without all the lying and the fact that he's married.

Answer 6

dont get all tough on him he said he feels like **** and maybe its not b/c he got caught but he really does feel bad, because he does care about you. If he's going through with the divorce then u shouldnt worry its not like he said after he was caught im not sure i wanna leave her ....he did leave ...so i dont see a problem.............papers means nothing espically if he moved out dont sound like he has too much love for his wife

Answer 7

Dump him ASAP your better than that, i don't know what you look like or your vital statistics but there is always a better man around the corner (if you can be bothered to look). If your undercarriage is in good order and still works the odds on finding a good man are even better. Again, dump him and learn to fart Beethoven's fifth symphony in tune and when he phones again, ars? to phone and blast him

CUL Red

Answer 8

Married is married. Single is single. Don't waste any more time on this man. He's a liar and a cheat. Is that what you want for yourself down the road? Find yourself a good, honest single man who will give you what you deserve and who is willing to give you back all that you put in.

Answer 9

You need to wake up and smell the coffee,honey! If he has lied to you about everything already,alarm bells should be goin off in your head!
This man will NEVER leave his wife for you! They ALWAYS go back to their wives!
Go find a real man who is honest with you,and stop wasting your time on this lying bastard!

Answer 10

This man is playing with you. He has a wife, he wants you, but he doesnt want to be divorced, trust me if he wanted to get divorced, he would have, he's just making an excuse. I suggest you leave him immediately, and avoid contact. IT would be hard but good luck!