i have been dating a girl for 3 weeks now.recently had a misunderstanding and i decided not to contact her?

Question

the next day she sent a text asking of my welfare and to know what i was doing.she also apologised for the what went wrong the previous day.i don't really believe her explanation so i refused to answer her txt but rather asked her to send me 3 txt messages confirming her love for me at 3 different times of the day..........till now she has not yet sent those sms.what should i do?am i doing the right thing?should i resume contacting her as before? i am confused((
don't want to lose her!!!

Answer 1

Obviously, she is the more mature person in the relationship. She's the one who contacted you and apologized. Why would you ask her to profess her love after 3 weeks? If she's smart, I think you already lost her.

Answer 2

Not to be a downer but declaring your love for someone after only 3 weeks of being together is a bit much. At 3 weeks you are smitten or in lust. It's hard to love someone you've been with for only 3 weeks. Also, you should evaluate your relationship at the moment. If you have already had a major fight 3 weeks in, what are things going to be like 3 months, 3 years down the line? You may want to cut your losses now, before you really end up loving her and having problems.

Answer 3

Send you 3 different text's, at three different times a day? What? No you are definitely not doing the right thing...

Forgiveness starts with yourself. Either you accept her sincere apology or you don't. It's your choice. Although, if it is a lying issue, then that's another story..Whatever the case may be..no one should have jump through hoops for you..

If it were me I would resent you telling me to text you 3 times in the day in regards to my love. Hello! I don't blame her for not responding..

You don't bombard people with ultimatums in regards to love. A person either feels forgiveness, let's it begin, or not. If you don' t accept the explanation for the thing that has occurred than let her know. All the other bs is irritating..

Sorry to be harsh, but I think your being petty. And if you don't want to lose her, don't aggravate her. It's also antagonizing Beauvoir. Just sit back and let the situation un-fold and work itself out...Good luck hunn..

Answer 4

She has already apologized and made the first step in reconciliation. So now it's your turn to make the next step towards peace. I think it was childish of you to ask her to send you three texts to confirm her love for you (it's like you want her to punish her more for whatever mistake she made). You just need to pick up the phone and call her!!

Answer 5

If you really care about her and don't want to loose her, you're going to need to talk to her.

Let her explain her side, about the misunderstanding you two had, and hear her out completely. Forgive her, and move on. Its' the only way you're going to get past this issue. Ignoring her is only going to make her not want to forgive you later on if you make a mistake.

If you don't feel like you can fully talk to her just yet in person, respond to her texts...but you're gonna have to meet face to face to hear her reasoning behind your misunderstanding. After that, just let it go and move on.

Answer 6

You don't want to lose her, but you won't speak to her, don't believe her, and demand that she tells you she loves you even though it's only been 3 weeks?

You're doing all the wrong things here. If you're not happy, break up and find someone who will make you happy.

Answer 7

if you love her, then why are you asking her to, basically, jump through hoops to show her love for you? But since she hasnt answered you, most likely she is disgusted by your request, or she doesnt love you. And since you have been together for only 3 wks, I would say that she doesnt love you.

Answer 8

You don't believe her apology, yet you demand she expresses her love? She needs to move on.

Answer 9

If you are done, you are done. don't be a jerk and play with her. just be done.