I am normally not the jealous type but recently my boyfriend made a comment about one of our friends saying that she was "hot." It really bothered me and I think that it was because it was a mutual friend and not some girl on the street. I feel disrespected. I am overreacting?
2007-11-05 04:10:24 · 33 answers · asked by Lola 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It was the way that it was brought up and the way that he said it that bothered me the most. I don't have any doubt that he would cheat on me.
2007-11-05 04:40:03 · update #1
Depends upon the boyfriend and the friend. If your boyfriend is trustworthy, mabe he just opened his mouth and it fell out. Of course he could be a jerk trying to undermine your confidence by forcing you to compare yourself with others.
I'd suggest telling him you didn't like that comment and if he does it again, ditch him. He was rude to both you and your friend by making that comment. Had he said she looked really nice tonight that would have been a commentary on her on that evening. The term "she's hot" imply's an attraction to her which he may or may not act on. I wouldn't like it either.
Some men start in this manner and then progress to outright mental and physcial abuse. Be careful, and remember what a guy once told me:
"Men are like buses, if you don't like the one your on, get off at the next corner and catch another one. There's one coming alone all the time. Pick the best one and have fun"!!!
Life is too short to waste on inconsiderate people.
2007-11-05 04:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by Adult American 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was it out of the blue? was there a conversation that brought on the comment? Just remember it's human nature to get upset when you feel someone else is might be more attractive then you. If it was brought up like "do you think so and so is hot?" Well then he's answering the question asked. That doesn't mean anything, he's still with you and that's what matters. You can't get mad if the question was brought up especially if you asked. Well let me leave you with one of of favorite quotes....." every moment you spend upset ot mad is 60 seconds of happiness you will never get back......"
2007-11-05 04:24:37 · answer #2 · answered by csiintraining2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a pill! This guy isn't rational. no you may in all probability be in love after some on line chats. In my own journey in spite of in case you have lots in common and chat for months, on assembly there may be no chemistry what so ever! The age difference may be sufficient to place the brakes on if no longer something, you're in 2 diverse stages of existence, and that takes getting used to.
2016-12-08 12:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by stockett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting it is one thing to think some one it attractive but you should keep it to your self. For example I will make a comment on say Tyrese but if he was a friend of mine or my bf I would keep it to myself. If it is some one that something could actually happen then there is a problem I would feel weird with trusting him around her. You are right he is wrong.
2007-11-05 04:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should at least let him know that it hurt you and ask him how HE would feel if you went around saying other guys were hott.
Because there's the possibility that if he thinks you don't mind or care, he might think he doesn't mean very much to you and it can make him insecure and feeling like you don't care that much after all..
Just letting him know will at least make him know that you are fully aware of any comment he makes and that you want to be his and his alone :)
2007-11-05 04:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by Flair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, is she hot? I don't see how you are being disrespected. Just because you are together doesn't mean he can't have opinions on how other girls look to him. That also doesn't mean he wants these other girls. He probably feels comfortable enough with your relationship that he can tell you who he finds attractive. By the way, it also doesn't mean he thinks she's more attractive than you.
2007-11-05 04:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on the context of the conversation. If you were just sitting around and he blurts out "Hey Suzie is so Hot" for no reason at all then I think he is a little insensitive and inmature (you didn't mention his age). If you were having a conversation about peoples appearances and he mentioned that your friend is attractive then I think that is acceptable.
2007-11-05 04:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by jenkline75 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's not dead yet! he can look! and so can you.
Don't waste your time being jealous. It only eats you up inside. Relax and enjoy life and all it has to offer. If you and your bf really love each other and care for each other, you both should know that nothing will come between you. If you can't trust him, you shouldn't be with him.
2007-11-05 04:23:03 · answer #8 · answered by Cosmos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your over-reacting... just because he is with you doesnt mean he cant think someone else is attractive. I am sure you have seen someone that looks nice to you. You should be able to comunicate openly with your boyfriend. If you do not feel comfortable hearing him say things like that tell him you understand there are attractive women out there but you dont want to hear about it.
2007-11-05 04:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by MamaX2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its a thin line. but do you think she's hot? not in a "i want to make out with you way" but you know she looks good.
when me and my girlfriend had the same argument we discussed calmly,
you can find someone attractive, but it doesnt have to mean that you're attracted to them.
you are both in the wrong and in the right. talk about it. make up. life is too short.
2007-11-05 04:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by James G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋