i am a mother of four all of whom i have given up for adoption, and I want to enter the dating scene again but I am afraid that guys will judge me by my past instead of my future. do guys really date women who have had kids.
2007-11-05 04:03:16 · 16 answers · asked by Sheena C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your sad, and your no mother. how many different fathers are there. do the children mean nothing to you.
2007-11-05 04:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by The Master 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Four children all out of wedlock, all given up for adoption. Yes, any good man will judge you unless you have a really good explanation. Most especially if all where from different relationships. If all four were given up because you couldn't care for them and you are now being very careful about getting pregnant, it will help.
You need to reconsider having children just to pass them on to the system. Try a different birth control, practice self control and be prepared for all people to judge you.
Life sucks and sometimes we reap what we sow.
..and yes, guys do date women with children. If they like the woman. I know of a guy that married a woman with 5 kids all living at home and had a first for him (6th for her) within the first year of marriage. Then she underwent sterilization.
Good luck!
2007-11-05 04:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by Adult American 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy. It sounds like you are really trying to clean up your life. That is very brave of you to do, and I hope you continue on a good path of healing and self-respect.
Please pay no attention to these judgemental people. They cannot possibly know what you have been through, and why you have done what you have done in the past. It's the present and the future that matter. You go, girl! You are awesome. I hope and pray you find a man who will respect you for who you are, help you grow, and be very good to you.I also hope that your children are blessed with a gift of understanding, that they have great homes and you will be reunited some day.
2007-11-05 05:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by Leopardlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
Most women have maternal instincts. My perception is that the kids always came second to partying and you having a good time.
Past performance is usually indicative of future performance. What about you has changed since you gave up the last? Do you still want to party party, do drugs and booze all day?
My first child was born out of wedlock, but I'm now married to her mother.
2007-11-05 04:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by CHARLES R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact you have had kids doesnt make a difference. The fact you gave all 4 up for adoption does. I personally would not date you knowing that. I mean, if you have 1-2 kids that you give up for adoption because you cant provide them with the life they deserve thats one thing, but 4...
2007-11-05 04:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Most guys are just more hesitant to involve themselves with such great responsibility especially if they don't have any kids. You should take into account that not everyone wants to be involved in your problems even though their interesed in you. You should probably just look for someone who can be mature and is interested in you even with your flaws.
2007-11-05 04:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by J-MAC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they do date women with kids but 4 kids you gave up? what does that say about you? they may be leery because obivously you don't use protection against STD's, you send you "mistakes" away instead of taking care of them.
2007-11-05 04:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by gonesouldirty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind a woman that has had kids, I do mind someone who would have kids and then abandon them. That sort of irresponsible behaviour is disgusting.
2007-11-05 04:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow your just a baby making machine,spit them out then get rid of them,how very endearing.
2007-11-05 04:07:02 · answer #9 · answered by havanadig 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just have to find the right guy who will accept you for what you have done.
2007-11-05 04:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by crzygrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋