anyone else have a 2 yr old that won't talk, or ask for things???

Question

I have a son that turned 2 in may- lately he is driving me CRAZY!!! All he does is whine... I don't get it. If I ask him what he wants to drink he just cries and points from one thing to another, and then when you finally pour him something he throws a huge tantrum with tons more crying... and wants something else (which he doesn't want as soon as you wash the cup out and pour more) he is the same way with everything- eating which pj's to wear... I have a 5 yr old and she never acted like that- he seems to cry 18 out of the 24 hours... I play with him, take him outside, ect, but he just KEEPS CRYING... anyone else have an oversensitive child like this? If so what did you/are you doing to keep your sanity? thanks in advance

Please no jerky comments- he has what he needs, he doesn't need a new diaper, or whatever rude comments you can think of- you will be reported if you post and crap like that...

well he talks... he is starting to make sentences "i go daddys house and play puppy" ect... when he isnt in a whiny mood he talks about all kind of things (sometimes I dont know what he is saying but most of the time I can figure it out) its just his constant whining that is making me nuts... it seems like he is so sensitive every little thing sets him off

Answer 1

Is it that he doesn't talk, or he'd rather act like a brat? Please don't be offended by that comment - I'm the mother of a 3 - year - old and trust me, despite what some parents might say, EVERY child goes through a bratty stage! Some do it at 1 or 2, others at 4; some stay in it for a long time, while for others, it's short - lived. Trust me, it doesn't usually mean the parents are doing anything wrong, and I highly doubt you did anything to cause your son's whining.
That said, if he can't/won't talk at all, you may want to get him evaluated for speech/language delays. He may know what he wants to say, but just can't say it - how frustrating for a little guy! If he has appropriate speech/language skills (a vocabulary of over 100 words, can use at least 2 - word sentences, and you can understand at least half of what he says), remind him that he's a big boy and needs to talk to you like a big boy to get what he wants. If not, ignore him and tell him you won't respond until he at least tries to talk like a big boy. It sounds harsh, but unless he has speech/language delays, it won't hurt him. Good luck!

Answer 2

Two of my four kids went through stages like this. It's hard. Remember that this shall pass. As difficult as it can be, I found the best thing to do was to walk away when they started whining. I would say, "If you're thirsty, you may have this juice. Here is your cup." And leave the room. There is no point in trying to reason with a two year old and if he's thirsty, he'll drink. The same in other situations. Say, "When you're ready, we'll go outside, or read a book, or whatever the case may be." And wait until he's not whining any more before you go. If this makes you late for a play date or whatever, it's really worth it in the long run. One other thing that I found helpful was rewarding my kids when they did it right. For instance, even if they'd had a lollipop that day, if they asked nicely I'd let them have another. One day of excess, to affirm their proper behavior was worth it. G'luck!

Answer 3

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Answer 4

yeah, my son is the same way. I can relate his turned 2 in April and he doesn't talk. He doesn't even speak in sentences. He whines and I have gotten to where I tell him to quit whinning. I hate whinning! He does say a few words, spongebob, bob, momma, daddy, yes, our least favorite NO, car, ball, color is his new word this week. Other than that he doesn't say anything else. It's so frustrating and I don't know what to do either. He had his adnoids removed in September and he started talking more after that, but not much more.

Answer 5

You said it in your statement, you give him something and he is pissed you gave it to him. OK then don't give him anything. Do a picture relation type thing. if he is whining call it that and say I don't have any of that. what would you like, then he points, to say juice you say Apple Juice he says or gives a yes acknowledgment, you then reinforce the THIS IS APPLE JUICE SAY APPLE JUICE with him and he will start to form words. Don't go freakin' out that he isn't a Rhodes scholar yet, as when he does start talking he won't stop.
Go thru basic books and do the picture and speach recognition. get him to say the word.
Now if he says he wants apple juice and you get that ack from him then he gets all pissy tell him you don't play that game and leave the juice there and walk away don't spend hours trying to decipher his antics he isn't oversensitive he has an attitude. It is up to you to change it.

Answer 6

Have you tried teaching him sign language? It can be very helpful, he is probably quiet frustrated in not being able to communicate his thoughts and needs to you.

Also every time he point something out to you I would try to confirm what he wants before giving it to him. Like if he points to the fridge ask "do you want some juice or some milk" so you are giving him choices.

Pick him up and have him touch what he wants. Remember he is having a hard time right now he needs you to be calm and understanding and to help him find his words.

I would also talk to his doctor about his developement maybe you can get him into some occupational and Speach therapy.
Hang in there mom!

Answer 7

My niece didn't talk until a little after 2 yrs. old and she would point to things, but we started making her say what she wanted and shortly, thereafter, she started talking and she just turned 3 and we can't shut her up. Maybe you can try that and if there's no improvement, get him tested for possibly autism. Hopefully, that's not the case, but good luck!

Answer 8

my son is 3 and we are going through this incredibly whiny phase right now, not sure if it is exactly like yours but its very similar. everything he wants, he asks for but it is always whiny and any little thing that is not exactly right he will throw and all out fit. if he spills something, if i cant figure out what he wants, if i wont give him what he wants, if we go somewhere he doesnt want to go,.....He drives me nuts!!!!!! i also have a 5 year old girl who never gave me these kind of problems. I was not ready for this craziness!!
I just try to not give in to his whining as much as possible and make sure he knows he will not get his way if he acts like that. --it works sometime, but it is definately hard to keep your sanity!
Good luck to you, it is probably just the terrible twos! and will end someday (fingers crossed for both of us!!!!)

Answer 9

I don't think you should think autism is the answer so quickly. So many toddlers are being diagnosed with autism or with Ausberger's syndrome; the diagnosis is being tossed around so loosely. Maybe you should go to the doctor's to see if he does have autism or if there's something else that's wrong. Maybe he is in pain for whatever reason, but this seems like an abnormal problem that needs to be checked out ASAP.

Answer 10

I think your son is frustrated by lack of verbal skills. Many children this age act this way. Start to really work on words with him. Give him choices such as milk or juice. Once he picks make sure to repeat the word - MILK! so he gets it. In the next few months his vocabulary is going to skyrocket and when he can explain himself better he wont be so whiney!