Guy trouble. Serious help!!!?

Question

so i have this guy i like and all my fiends say that he is intregued by me. but i dont know how to flirt with him to get him to like me more. he's a christian so its not like he's perverted. but i dont know what to do. i need some chrsitian advice.

Answer 1

I understand your concern. Being in a Christian environment complicates things because everyone is worried about whether what they are doing is "okay."

Of course, he is probably wondering also. In addition to all the problems a guy has asking a girl out (guys are baffled by gals, at any age), he also is worried about doing something that might look "wrong." If you also are in the same church or such, he does not know what YOUR "rules" are. SOmething that to him might seem okay, you might think is "wrong."

So he may be paralyzed not knowing how to move things along.

In terms of flirting, just make him feel good. Compliment something about him that you can sincerely compliment. Say you like his eyes, his jacket, his sneakers. If you do that only once, the effect is limited. But if you do it often, it feels better and better and feels more and more like "I really like you." Keep coming back to such things again and again, maybe "you have cool hands." Keep going. Not back to back, sprinkle it in the conversation.

Be supportive of him and what he is doing. Just make him feel good to be around him. Ask him what he wants to do with his life, and then say you think he could do anything. Tell him he is good at X (if he is). Guys really need the support and encouragement of a woman, and crave it.

For advanced flirting, ask him to smile -- while you watch quite obviously. Then smile with enjoyment.

In terms of going out, I would say you should drop some hints about things you like to do. Tell him you like Pizza Hut better than Dominos (or whatever, Chinese, Mexican, KFC, whatever) and then ask him which one he likes better. Then tell him you can't wait to go get some this weekend. You could even ask if he wants to join you, but he hopefully will suggest that himself (But give him time. Guys are SLOW -- especially when they are baffled by how girls make them feel.)

Maybe ask him what's playing in the movies that's any good. What has he heard is good? Has he seen anything that he liked lately?

In other words, you are telling him discreetly that it would be OKAY to ask you out, and reaching out half way. And you can ratchet it up even more than that, but you can START with something that subtle and see if it works, and then be more explicit if you want.

There is nothing wrong with asking him "I'm going to go get some pizza. Want to join me?" But you can EASE into that also by starting out slow.

Answer 2

Are you a Christian, too? If not, you should come to know Jesus. He loves you very much.

Assuming you are a Christian...and you said this guy is, too, then why not take a laid back approach to it? Just get to know each other kind of thing? Invite him to church or ask about his. Even if it doesn't work out romantically, he is a brother in Christ.

Answer 3

First you shouldn't have fiends for friends... that's the root of your problem..

A Christian boy is the same as any other boy..

You say" Hi' Tyler!!"

You make eyes at him.. you touch his arm when you talk.. you give him unexpected hugs...

Lots of attention is what gets the guys....

Answer 4

Rather than focusing on his religion, why don't you talk to him and get to know him as a person. Having real conversations without worrying about what he wants to hear would be a lot better and more real/winning than reading up on things he likes and trying to change yourself to fit that assumption.

Answer 5

touching is a powerful way of flirting. Tickle him. Grab his hand often. Play some hand games with him. And watch if he smiles. good luck

Answer 6

Well just be nice and a friend! Be upfront and honest with him!! Take a chance don't let it slip away!! Good luck!!

Answer 7

if you were chrisitan what would you go about handling the situation