PLEASE HELP!!! shes trying to take my baby away from me?

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Ok long story short...I dated this 17 year old back in january and sometime within that time conceived a baby and im now married to the babys daddy who is 35 years old...Im 18...I had my lil girl Oct 6th...Well the 17yrs old mother showed up at my parents house demanding that she see her grandchild...which the baby is not her sons it is the man im married to...She starting yelling at my lil sister saying that shes tired playing nice ( because the entire time i was pregnant she kept calling wanting to help buy things ) and that she was going to pay a $ 50,000 dollar lawyer to petition i get a dna test to prove its her sons and if i dont let them see her that she will take her away from me...Ok if i was married the time of her birth and my husband put his name on her birth certificate...Can they make me do a dna test??? Can they have a court order me to take one...Im married and live with my husband and he has a damn good job and we are VERY well taken care of...please help.....Thank U
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If you were wondering she showed up at my parents house 2 days ago....Im scared i just want to live my life with m husband and my little girl....Please... I live in alabama i know some states are different..Are there any sites with VERY HELPFUL INFO???
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Oh and i got married sept 19th if that helps at all
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she also said the judge she would use if a very good friend of hers...inst that conflict of interest??

Answer 1

if you are absolutely positive that your husband is the father, get the DNA test to prove it and move on with your life (let the 17yr old mom pay for it) - BUT if there are ANY doubts, be prepared for war if the test comes up that your ex bf is the father....good luck

Answer 2

You should get a DNA test. If the baby is not her son's, then you have nothing to worry about. If it is, then you need to see a lawyer. Did this woman spend a lot of money on you and the baby while you were pregnant, and did you let her think that it was her grandchild? If so, then you probably should pay her back the money she spent on you. I doubt she would be able to take the baby away from you, but if your husband is not the father, then her son would have rights to the baby and you will need to set up some sort of custody. Just because you listed your husband as the father on the birth certificate that doesn't make him the father. If you slept with both of these men around the time that you conceived, then you need to have a DNA test done.

Answer 3

First thing you need to do is sit down with your husband and talk everything out. Make sure there are no secrets and no surprises in your relationship (pertaining to your daughter). Then call a laweyer. Most lawyers will do a free consulation visit so you might want to meet with a couple and decide who you feel most comfortable with.

If she is filing suit against you and trying to take you to court she cannot choose her own judge. If the judge chosen is a friend of hers you can file for a change. Talk to your lawyer about the threat she made at the your first meeting with him/her

If you are SURE that your husband is the father (that would mean you did not have sex with both men in the time period the baby was conceived) your lawyer might suggest that you go ahead and have a DNA test that the other woman pays for. It certainly would make her stop.

If there is ANY chance that your husband is not the father you guys need to sit down and have that conversation now.

If you are taking care of your child the other woman cannot just have her taken away. But if her son is the father than he can be given visitation rights through the court. And if he is the father, then you need to do everything in your power to make the visits go smoothly and have a civil relationship with his side of the family (as much as possible, anyway).

If this woman (whether she is correct about the DNA or not) continues to visit or call your parents' home, talk to the doctor about a restraining order. It's pretty unfair for her to approach your little sister about something that is between her son and you.

Every state is different and I wouldn't necessarily trust any info you find on any website unless you have talked to a lawyer about it. This is too important. Please please call a lawyer (or two or three) before you do ANYTHING.

Answer 4

If a judge sees it as a possiblility that the 17 year old is the father, then the judge will grant the petition for a DNA test. You have to comply with any court order, you won't have a choice. But if you are absolutely sure that your husband is the baby's father then there is no reason to be worried. The DNA test will prove that the 17 year old isn't the father and he won't have any claim to your daughter. Even if he was the father, his mother has no legal way to take your baby away unless you and your husband are deemed unfit parents.

Answer 5

if you know that your husband is the babies dad, then why are you worried about her wanting a DNA test? if she is willing to pay for it then let her. It will either prove she has been wrong and she can move on with her life, or it really is her grandchild. You sound a little paranoid that maybe it is her sons baby since you dont want the test done. And YES, if there is a question of paternity, dosnt matter who you are married to and who is on the birth certificate, she can take you to court if she files

Answer 6

If she takes you to court, she may be able to get the DNA test. She would have to pay for it, seeing as she wants it. If you're so certain you're married to the father, then why not have the test done to get her off your case. Yes a DNA test can be instilled, even if you were married at the birth, but legally your husband is currently the father until proven otherwise. Even if the 17 yr old is the father, they will not give custody to his mom unless you and the 17 yr old are proven unfit parents. They may grant the 17 yr old some custody rights, but certainly not all.
In regards to your last comment, yes that would be conflict of interest and your attorney could persue that.

Answer 7

If there is a viable question of paternity then YES she can take you to court and request one. If you are 100% positive that the child is your husbands then you have nothing to worry about. Do the DNA test and get it over with, but she will have to pay for it if she requests it.
If the ex-boyfriend IS the biological father then you should not try to stand in the way of him having a relationship with his child. You will only damage the childs emotional well being. Your husband will, if he truly loves you, understand.
By the way, the only way that someone can take your baby away from you is if they can prove in court that you are an unfit mother, by either proving abuse-drug use-or neglect.

Answer 8

1) Get a restraining order against the lady showing up on your door step.
2) Get an attorney
3) You may have to do a DNA test (why are you scared of that?)
4)It is very difficult for a grandparent to obtain court ordered visitation and if what you are saying is correct, you have nothing to worry about.
You can keep her away with the restraining order. It is her job to prove the baby is her grandchild and she is just bluffing for the time being.

Answer 9

I doubt that a 'potential' grandmother has the right to order a DNA test. Something like that would have to be initiated by her son. You being married and happy makes no difference at all. If this 17 year-old decides that he wants a DNA test, he will have to get a court order for it and he will have to pay for it himself. How can you be certain that it's not his if you were sleeping with both guys around the time you conceived? I would just ignore his mother and if she keeps bothering you about it, get a restraining order. She can't make this happen, but her son can. He's the one you should be worried about.

Answer 10

Take the DNA test. As soon as the results come back showing it is not her son's child, she will have no ammunition left to start drama with. Otherwise, she can petition the courts for enforcement of grandparent's rights and then the court would order the test anyway. In any case, without the test, you may have to put up with more threats and drama...do it, show her the results and then live you life, happily with your husband and child.

Answer 11

You can technically put anybody's name on a birth certificate so that doesn't necessarily slide. If she has a lawyer involved its very possible that they might be able to get a judge to agree on a DNA test of the baby. That being said though, like you said, you are married and in a very stable environment with good income in the household so that stands in your favor. However if you were on welfare in a trailer park and the old boyfriends parents were well off then she could possibly have success to gain custody if in fact the child was her sons. But since everything seems to be in your favor I wouldn't worry about it too much. They always try to stay in favor of the mother unless there is some major reason not too (abuse, drugs, alcohol, etc.). Best of luck to you and just don't stress over it. Babies can pick up on that and I know you don't need a stressed out baby on your hands right now.