How long do you think it should be before you take the next stage in your relationship, eg buy a house, get engaged. I have been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years and we live together but in my house (he wasnt ready to buy one after 2.5 years together so he went and bought a property by himself). I now wonder if im in a relationship with a man who will never want to commit, but I just dont know if im being over sensetive to the situation?? Why are relationships soo confussing??
2007-11-05 03:40:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
love is never confusing
how long you going to wait for your boyfriend to change?hes never go to change,so time for you to evaluate what you want in your life and go get it but know it wont be with him....
you can find someone better if you allow yourself to do so.
2007-11-05 04:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by talks good s hit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont say how old you are? me and my bf been going out 1.5 years and i feel ready to move it to the next stage, its a very hard topic to bring up as suppose we dont want to loose what we have by taking to next level. But if a rel'ship is to move on it has to be done. I think 3.5 years is way a long time with not much commitment. My bf has told me his fears about marriage and im taking it hard, we both have our own houses and it will be hard to work out the best way to manage the 2 houses. I just hope and pray that what is meant to be will be and im sure the same will apply to you. Be strong and hopfully it will work if it is meant to.
2007-11-05 04:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me & my hubby moved in together after 3 years.I didn't know but at the time he wasn't as happy about it as i thought lol
I pushed him & we lived together for a few more years before marrying (after 7 yrs as a couple) & on our 10th year together, we had a baby.
We never tried to rush anything, just let it happen naturally after moving in.We knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together so could relax about things. People worry far too much about commitment & sometimes thats what destroys a reltionship.Just have fun together, once you've got a house & 2.4kids its very stressful so make the most of the time you have now.If its really bothering you then tell him, your not putting pressure on him but does he have plans with you for the future, because once you know you can relax & wait for it to happen.
2007-11-05 03:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 and a half years isnt that long, id just keep on with ur relationship if you want to be with him and just have fun, enjoy eachother without the hassle of bills and mortgage payments etc, u can be a happier couple without all that, if u want more from the relationship then u just have to ask and talk to him bout what exactly both of u are wanting, but just coz hes bought his own place doesnt mean he doesnt want to commit with u, its just that it might be a bit too soon in your relationship for all that
2007-11-05 03:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by joybish1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all sounds a bit odd. You live together (why marry?) in your house (why not his?). He didn't want to share a property with you so bought one for himeself. (why?) Do you discuss anything with him at all? If not, why not? Are you happy with the arrangements as they are? If you aren't, I suggest you either talk to him or leave him.
2007-11-05 03:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by chris n 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am trying to be clever or funny here, so please don't take this the wrong way.
Relationships are only confusing sometimes, because people use sites like this and agony aunts in magazines instead of talking to ther partners. Do you know how he feels? Have you asked him? He may be thinking, I would like to take this further, but I don't know how she feels.
2007-11-05 03:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by Ian Spence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 02:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...thats enough time!! you need to talk to him about this. how old are you? if you're in your mid 20's, then its definitely time to start thinking about full commitment and engagement. if he cant do it, then leave him. 3.5 yrs is a long time and if he isnt even thinking about the future, then thats not good.
2007-11-05 03:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by shanamoakler 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋