I am in Love with them woman, she is in Love with me. we have been together a year and plan on getting married in the next year or so.
My parents know we live together and love her to death. she has a good but very different relationship than the one i have with my parents.- for the most part when it comes to this kind of thing they have always had a dont ask, dont tell kinda thing going, my parents and I have a very open and honest relationship... im not saying one is better than the other....
just given where we see and feel about the other is it better to just let it lay until we are married or to tell them truth.
i need examples, stories, reasons and honesty from you guys.
thanks
2007-11-05 03:34:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do her parents not visit her? They will eventually find out, or at least have a clue, whether you tell them or they find out from some other source. They can't be that dense, right?
She's old enough to make her own choices and live out her own life with out parental guidance. Although she will need/want their support when you two get married, I think she should tell them. It would make everything easier in the long run.
If you haven't already proposed, I think you should ask her parents' permission for their daughter's hand in marriage. I think it's becoming a thing of the past but yet it's still a very respectable thing to do.
2007-11-05 03:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by sugar sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you and your girl friend can decide this issue. But I would feel terrible living in secret. I think you need to let them know that the two of you are in love and are planning to be married and until that time you are living together for what ever reason (want to, financial, convenient, etc) And don't want to hide that fact from them. It's not like you are 16 and 18. This way they can get used to the idea of the two of you together. It's not their business anyway....you are both adults even though you are not acting like it regarding this matter.
2007-11-05 03:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lyn B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them, it's no big deal, eventually they will find out. my gf's parents didn't like it when we moved in together, but the cost of living is so high. it wasn't like we were doing anything. I think most do understand that. when they lived with us (cuz they are from different country) for a few months, they approved. and if you plan to get married next year, it is a good step to take because you can confirm that you two can live together. many can date, but they can't live together.
2007-11-05 03:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by Carborane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents are similar to hers. They don't really ask the intimate details about our relationship for exp: (do we spend the night at each other house...things like that). Also they believe that couples shouldn't live together before marriage so knowing me, I probably wouldn't tell them unless they decide to come and visit and then they would have to know. But then again, both of you are grown and doing your own thing, so there is not much they can do about it, but fuss.
2007-11-05 03:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Mallball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you are planning to get married in the next year, YOU need to tell her parents. I got married without telling my parents and they were heartbroken. We have the same kinds relationship as her and her parents. You guys don't need their approval but out of respect you two need to tell them. Have her invite them to dinner and tell them that way. Don't do it over the phone.
2007-11-05 03:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by Tricia & Shane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is wayyyy to old to be hiding important details of her life from her family. If you two are serious about marriage, you should include the family in your decision to live together and plans to be married. If they dont like it, too bad!!
2007-11-05 03:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by ddok 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you meet her parents or has she at least told them about you if not then she's not taking you seriously and the best thing to do is if they don't accept you to keep on trying if she says she really loves you try convincing them and see what happens if not then trust your heart do what's best for both of you!!!!!!!!!good luck!!!
2007-11-05 03:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter, since you're both adults?
2007-11-05 03:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i already answered this question
2007-11-05 03:41:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋