Saudi Marriage 'Expert' Advises Men in 'Right Way' to Beat Their Wives?

Question

They claim they are so religous and spiritual...to me these so called men are the lowest form of humans..........

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,307680,00.html

I would feel this way about any man who hit their wives or daughters, no matter WHAT religion THEY ARE.....It just so happen this story on the REAL news this morning as well, but I happened to find it on FAUX news site.....

Answer 1

I saw that too. Saudi men have an ego problem. And they make religious rules to fit their male ego.

Also, they have written a book that was even delivered out of Brittan Mosques that those who left Islam needed to have their head cut off as punishment. Since this is illegal, I guess they have their secret ways to do this, undercover. And these books are delivered out of Mosques to keep women in line & to kill people who leave Islam. But then this has been part of Islam since the beginning of Islam.

Those who say the Holy Bible writes the same as this are liars. Falsely accusing God of the Holy Bible. What did Jesus say to the Pharasees & Scribes who brought before Jesus the woman who was caught in the act of adultery? What did Mohammad say to the woman caught in the act of adultery? Jesus didn't condemn her & only told her to sin no more. And Mohammad had the woman put to death. Two different religions. Two different Gods.

It is written in the bible that men are to love their wives like Christ loves the Church, even to give their life for her. Jesus said that Moses allowed for the writing of divorsement because of the hardness of mans heart. Jesus said the only allowance for divorse is adulteries. Jesus didn't say to stone the woman to death if she committed adultery.

Answer 2

That's so stupid and barbaric. If marital problems arise, the couple should have a healthy dialogue and work things out with each other. Resorting to physical violence during times of marital problems is wrong.

Moreover, the the Saudi marriage "expert" automatically assumes that problems in marriage only arise from women. That's not true. Marital problems arise from the man also. What happens in the case when the man causes the conflict in marriage? Does he beat his wife for his own misbehavior? Get real.

Answer 3

That's why I am glad I follow God's laws and I live in a country where it's against the law to mistreat another human being or an animal.

(unfortunately it still happens here, but woe be unto you if you get caught at it)

Answer 4

Yes When I lived in Saudi I saw beating wives encouraged on religious talk shows.

Its also true that fundamentalist Christianity is not much better.

Answer 5

You will find that the Old Testament does the exact same thing.

So are Christians and Jews also in your lowest form of humans status?

Answer 6

The bible rcommends much of the same stuff but even more extreme.
I wonder why these experts only seem to apear on Christian backed media?
It makes me a bit suspicious.

Answer 7

God instructs men to be nice to their wives and to treat them well to the best of their ability:

“…And live with them in kindness…” (Quran 4:19)

The Messenger of God said, The most perfect of believers in belief is the best of them in character. The best of you are those who are the best to their women.’[1] The Prophet of Mercy tells us that a husband’s treatment of his wife reflects a Muslim’s good character, which in turn is a reflection of the man’s faith. How can a Muslim husband be good to his wife? He should smile, not hurt her emotionally, remove anything that will harm her, treat her gently, and be patient with her.

Being nice includes good communication. A husband should be willing to open up, and be willing to listen to his wife. Many times a husband wants to air his frustrations (like work). He should not forget to ask her about what annoys her (like when children would not do their homework). A husband should not talk about important things with her when he or his wife is angry, tired, or hungry. Communication, compromise, and consideration are the cornerstone of marriage.

Being nice includes encouraging one’s wife. The most meaningful admiration comes from a sincere heart that notices what really matters — what the wife really values. So a husband should ask himself what she feels most insecure about and discover what she values. That is the wife’s sweet spot of praise. The more the husband compliments it, the more the wife will admire it, the more on target this healthy habit will be. Kind words are like, “I like the way you think,” “You look beautiful in those clothes,” and “I love hearing your voice on the phone.”

Human beings are imperfect. The Messenger of God said, “A believing man should not hate a believing woman. If he dislikes something in her character, he should be pleased with some other trait of hers.”[2] A man should not hate his wife because if he dislikes something in her, he will find something he likes about her if he gives it a chance. One way to be aware of what he likes in his wife is for the husband to make a list of a half dozen things he appreciates about her. Marriage experts recommend that one be as specific as possible and focus on character traits — just as the Prophet of Islam recommended, not just what she does for the husband. For example, a husband may appreciate the way she arranges his clean laundry, but the underlying character trait may be that she is thoughtful. The husband should consider admirable traits such as being compassionate, generous, kind, devout, creative, elegant, honest, affectionate, energetic, gentle, optimistic, committed, faithful, confident, cheerful, and so on. A husband should give himself some time to construct this list, and review it in times of conflict when he is most likely to feel averse towards his wife. It will help him be more aware of his wife’s good attributes and far more likely to compliment them.

A companion asked the Prophet of God what is the right of a wife over her husband?’ He said, “That you feed her when you eat and clothe her when you clothe yourself and do not strike her face. Do not malign her and do not keep apart from her, except in the house.”[3]

Conflict in marriage is virtually inevitable and it leads to lot of anger. Although anger is one of the most difficult emotions to manage, the first step toward controlling it can be learning how to forgive those who hurt us. In case of conflict, a husband should not stop talking to his wife and emotionally hurt her, but he may stop sleeping in the same bed if it will improve the situation. Under no circumstance, even when he is angry or somehow feels justified, is a husband allowed to malign her by using hurtful words or cause her any injury.

Answer 8

Excuse me while I go vomit. These women need to learn how to handle a gun.

Answer 9

The interesting thing here is so many who will be outraged about this will be quite happy to smack their naughty children.

Answer 10

This is why I thank God I live in America.