I met this guy in a party a while ago, we chat a little bit but we didn't exchange number. But then we met again a few months later in a club, and I seriously wanted to have his number, he decided to give me his MSN since he has a boyfriend for 2 years, I took it without hesitation. We started chatting online every night, and one day he gave his number to me and wanted to see me, he called it as "friendly meet up", so we met a few times, mainly dinner, movies etc...until one night, we went clubbing, he hugged me intimately (he had a few drinks) which last like 20 seconds, I pushed him away because I thought it was inappropriate cus his friends were around. Soon after that, he text me that he has a serious crush on me too, I told him as much as how I want things to happen, the timing isn't right, then he suggest we should forget our feelings for each other. I am so confused, should I keep seeing him and hope for the best or just forget him and find someone else? I really like him!
2007-11-05 02:29:12 · 39 answers · asked by Victor V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's taken. Find someone else. Besides, he suggested you forget your feelings for each other.
This is why I'm straight. Men suck. JK
2007-11-05 02:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by Don 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a nice feeling knowing someone you like actually likes you too. But do you really see this going anywhere? I'm not against gay relationships at all but seriously, think about what will happen in a long run. Don't you want a real family or something like that eventually? just something to think about. The guy might not seem as great as he is if you strip down things to the bare essentials.
2007-11-05 02:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by ~b0wL_aDDiCt~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is the timing not right? Is it because he has a boyfriend or another reason? I think you'd be better off just talking to him about it to avoid any confusion. If you're worried about the fact that he is already in a relationship then that is really considerate, but things happen and maybe his relationship is nearing an end etc.
2007-11-05 02:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ladylike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like what you told him originally; that you want things to happen but the timing isn't right since he is involved with someone else. Since he seemed to agree with this, I would leave it alone. If he really is into you, he will find a way out of his current relationship and make his way back to you. I know it's hard, but your instincts are correct...you should be with someone that is available for you exclusively.
2007-11-05 02:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is confused about WHO he is right now. Until he can figure it out, he will never have a meaningful relationship with anyone. If you are after a good relationship with someone, then I would suggest you leave him alone. He will only break your heart and prolly end up running off with a guy.
2007-11-05 02:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by dannah1129 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are female then he is not gay he is bi. If he is with someone tell him things can happen if he ever leaves the other person. Maybe the 3 of you could meet the more the merrier. If one of those won't work move on.
2007-11-05 02:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by bigjuggies79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what i'd move on as your just wasting your time,as being confused is not being in love......
And when things like this happen just tell yourself you will feel a bit shite for a week or to,but then you will start to feel a lot better,focus on something/or someone else
Be glad to move on as you are now nearer meeting the right person for you
2007-11-05 02:38:23 · answer #7 · answered by talks good s hit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you took his number and starting dating him even though you knew he was already in a 2 yr relationship ... what's to say he won't do the same thing to you if you end up together? there are so many fish in the sea - find a new one that isn't already involved with someone else
2007-11-05 02:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by beast 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me that the bloke is as confused as you or hes messing with your head
the best thing i can think of is msn this bloke tell him everything you have just said on here and ask him where you stand
you will either get a good or bad result either way you can move on in that direction
good luck hunni
2007-11-05 02:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by kezza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you give up you may give up on the love of a lifetime or the heartache of a lifetime... that is the chance you take and (you said, "the timing isn't right"), love doesn't deal with your timetables.
Is this something that you are willing to risk it all for or not?
2007-11-05 02:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by David 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋