Why doesn't my boyfriend purpose to me already? We've been dating over 2 1/2 years now. Where both in college and I'm not really sure when he'll be done but I should be done by next year. If he pops the question now I could be married while I look for a job. Why is it so hard for you guys to pop the question? My parents were engaged after 10 months. Why do guys move so slow these days? It's kind of frusterating. Please help me.
2007-11-05 02:22:22 · 5 answers · asked by shy girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think that you should enjoy life first, i really love my girlfriend and i want to marry her, but i think that you might be in the same position as me and i would say that perhaps it would be better not to rush into things before you're a hundred percent sure that he's the one.
2007-11-05 17:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to break it to you, but 2 1/2 years isn't necessarily a long time to be dating these days - and if you're both in college, you're probably both still in your early 20s. That's pretty young to get married these days.
Weddings cost a lot more money than they did when my parents got married, too - he may be waiting until you two have saved up the $10,000 or so a typical wedding costs - and the money for an engagement ring and honeymoon add a lot to that figure!
He could also see marriage as the end to his freedom and fun, or the beginning of fatherhood. You two probably need to sit down and discuss your views on marriage - it sounds like it means the world to you, but he may not share that view. He may be happy with the way your relationship is right now, or he may be thinking that you two aren't that serious yet. If you don't mind my saying so, it seems odd that you don't know when he'll be finished college. If you've been dating that long, surely you should know all about his plans!
2007-11-05 02:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, 2 1/2 years isn't very long. Maybe he wants to wait until he's out of college and can afford a ring, or a house, or be more financially stable. Maybe he doesn't want to get married right now. Maybe he doesn't want to get married at all.
If you've never talked about marriage, now would be the time to bring it up, especially if you want to get married someday. He may not, and you should be on the same page. If your life goals aren't similar, you're going to have a hard time being together. Make sure you both want to get married (not necessarily to each other, just in general) and find out what your views are on having children, joint checking accounts, buying a house, where to live, how to raise your children ... getting married is a lot more work than it might seem.
2007-11-05 02:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just not ready yet. Maybe HE wants to finish college first, get a good job so he can support a family, and not have the added stress of school. Just give it some time. I'm just wondering why women are so anxious to get married. Take your time, enjoy eachother. You don't need a ring to prove your love, wait till he is ready, if you don't wait and you pressure him you might eventually lose him!! Give it time.
2007-11-05 02:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by Amber B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the hurry? Get more life experiences first before settling down. That way you're sure that marrying each other is what you really want.
2007-11-05 02:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by reg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋