My sleep is interrupted daily!?

Question

I need some help, advice, something. I work M-F 8AM to 5PM and my wife works Su-Thurs 5:30PM-2AM. So that we can spend time together, I try to sleep for a few hours until she gets home at 2:30AM and then I get up to spend a couple of hours with her and try to go back to sleep. Over the past several weeks, I have been a very difficult time getting to back to sleep and when I do I have been having very realistic dreams about personal security. Dreams about people breaking into my house or someone trying to kill me or my wife. I do this repeatedly from about 4AM till 7AM when I awake. I will fall deeply asleep for about 20-30 minutes and have these nightmares. I wake up screaming. Any thoughts? What should I do?

Answer 1

It sounds like you are subconsciously worried about your wife's work hours. Has your wife taken a personal safety course?

I can understand why you get up to spend a few hours with your wife when she gets in but its not good for you to interrupt your sleep in that matter.

I am not sure if its possible for your wife to change her schedule if so that might help your situation.

Answer 2

You have already disturbed the natural sleeping preocess. Don't change your sleeping pattern. Now a days couples have just a day or two to talk to each other and be with each other. If there can be a change in the jobs , it would be great. You guys need vacations. And if the timings of the jobs clash , it is Ok to be with each other for one day , finding few minutes everyday of togetherness( which is very romantic) and interacting via phone or internet. But you have to be respectful of each other and share all the burdens - in the house and outside. That will go long way in your relationship. One day , the difficult times will pass and you will be glad that you worked hard at this time of your life. Hard work does not go waste. You will have better times sooner than you think. Just don't lose faith in each other. It is difficult period for both you and you have to tide over it together. By changing your sleep pattern , you will ruin your health which can dash your dreams of a good life. Sleep the natural way. Other things will take care of themselves automatically !

Answer 3

Honestly, either deal with it or get different shifts. I think it is very respectable that you get up at 2:30 to spend time with your wife. But if it is ruining your life, persay, then you need to get some sleep.You have a very awkward sleep pattern. This is actually very bad for your body. The dreams are a reaction to this very irregular sleep pattern. They are telling you something. We are meant to go to sleep a couple hours after sundown, and wake up when the sun comes up. Anything else is considered irregular. Your going to sleep when the sun is up, then waking up when the sun is down and then expecting to go back to sleep. To your body, you already got sleep. Something needs to change in my opinion.good luck.

Answer 4

If worse comes to worse, try a tylenol PM. But I would only take 1, the recommended dosage is 2. Also, you need to get uninterrupted sleep. Let your wife try getting up earlier to be with you in the morning before you go to work. She may have an easier time than you do.

Answer 5

Make other time to be together. How much quality time can you have at 2:30 in the morning when she's just worked 8 hours and you're just getting awakened during REM sleep?!

Maybe plan to get up and have breakfast together. Or since her hours are wackiest, maybe she can find a new job w/ better hours. Your marriage is not worth risking just for money.

Answer 6

Attempt to calm your mind, whether it be from meditation or having some non-caffinated tea, or in some sort of method, push all of the thoughts of personal security out of your mind, or at least lack of it. Also, you could take a lap around your house or apartment and make sure everything is locked up and in good order to give your subconcious some security. Make sure you are comfortable in your surroundings and you are not afraid when you fall asleep.

Answer 7

No-one teaches us to sleep properly when we are young and thats the problem.

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Answer 8

oh ive kinda figured out what dreams are
like when ur awake and try to think of NOTHING like try and think of absoulutley NOTHING and just clear your mind
did u ever notice random thoughts start popping up in ur head?? well ya thats what dreaming is

so u can actually dream while u are awake and its just easier to see them when ur sleeping

thats how you fall asleep too
when u close ur eyes and CLEAR UR MIND
and think of ABSOLUTLEY NOTHING
ur brain will generate random images from the memories inside of ur brain

for me, when i think of nothing, i always hear of voices from other people and shapes forming into other shapes

so when i fall asleep, those thoughts just become more amplified

now when i get nightmares i just KNOW that its a dream and just have fun with them
ur probably stressed out or something so u get negative thoughts when u fall asleep.
try to go to sleep WITHOUT ANY WORRY

and u will have good dreams

well even if u have a bad dream, u can just THINK your way out of it u know, just think of the movie matrix. the dreams u have are like the matrix. u control it.

for example when i had a dream of when i was inside a mall, i kept thinking to myself, I WANNA FLY I WANNA FLY I WANNA FLY

then i was able to fly. you can always control ur own dreams

Answer 9

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Answer 10

The abnormal sleeping habit is starting to affect you. I would suggest a few days of uninterrupted sleep.