My husband has been wanting all of to start going to church. I usually just roll my eyes and say whatever. A part of me, and I mean a tiny part of me wants to give it a try. But the other HUGE part of me believe it to be a big joke. I don't fully believe in this whole Jesus bit. I try, I really do, but I can't help it. Another thing is, if there is a God, well I'm pissed at him! Also, I feel that most all churches are nothing but complete lies, maybe even an occult. I guess I am more confused over this then anything, so How do I go to church with my husband and manage to set thru it?
2007-11-05 01:48:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
LOL Just for the record, I am not a submissive wife! And my husband does not tell me what to do, and if he did, I would put him in his place. I just wanted some advice on this matter. Because a part of me wants it and the other part doesn't.
2007-11-05 01:58:10 · update #1
We have one daughter that is 11 yrs old. Even though my beliefs are scrambled, she does go to a private Christian School, where she attends chapel and she goes to her youth group gatherings a couple nights a week. My hubby attends church service some but feels I will too benifit from it. With my anxiety/panic disorder.
2007-11-05 02:03:23 · update #2
I'm in the same boat, honey. And I just don't know.
Organized religion to me doesn't make sense. It's all a bunch of hypocrites gathered together to gossip. Religion, Christianity in particular is about your own personal relationship with God, not about a group relationship and whether you sing "amazing grace" and yell "hallajuha" in a building built by man to be "gods house".
Give it a shot. Sitting through church isn't all that bad. But I tend to start thinking and overanalysing everything that's going on, but at least try, for the sake of your husband. And eventually try to talk to him about it. I know how stubborn most deeply religious people are, and they don't tend to understand where I come from when saying this, but at least try. I go with the story that I believe in god, but I think it's a personal realtinship, and I don't believe in going to church will better myself, I think it wil make it worse.
You just have to try to explain things. If you feel that strongly, you aren't going to be happy in a church. And you can't go around your whole life pretending to be something your not. If you do that, you'll be those exact people in those chuches that you don't like.
2007-11-05 01:57:00 · answer #1 · answered by ashtonhayes88 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't see what it can hurt by going. It may help you decide either way. I would just explain to your husband the confusion you're feeling and let him know that IF you go to church, not to have any expectations, or assume anything. If you want to be well informed, I suggest you look into many different religions and compare them to each other. You may be surprised.
2007-11-05 10:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by ☼ɣɐʃʃɜƾ ɰɐɽɨɲɜɽɨƾ♀ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get in a Bible Study group and learn what God has to say instead of what man has to say. Look at everyone in that church as sinners just like you. The only difference is they have been saved by the grace of God.
Put God first in your life and God will make everything else fall in order. Don't go to church just to listen to a preacher. Get into Bible Study and learn about Jesus and what He did. Follow Jesus and let Jesus be your example - not church folks.
Try a good Bible believing protestant church. Try many until you find one that you feel comfortable in. You will never have a blessed life until you get straight with the Lord. We must have Peace with God, Peace with Others and Peace with Ourselves.
2007-11-05 10:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Lying to yourself is not a way to come to Christ. But I see you have questions, concerns and reservations. So there is a few things I would suggest. The first would be to read 1 gospel (Matthew, Mark, Luke or John). As you go through write down any questions you have or any teachings that don't sit well with you. Finally I will pray for you and hope in doing this some light is shed on what Jesus was all about. Your questions you write down please feel free to email me and I would love to help you with them in more detail than can truly be done over Yahoo Answers.
2007-11-05 09:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by daemon747 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let him know your a bit weird about going. Honestly I rarely go and I dont think that going makes you any better a person. You need to find a right church to attend since alot of them are filled with judgemental people. I have had my days with those. And why are you pissed at god....As i see it things happen, people are going to suffer people are going to die. Its part of life so you shouldnt just place blame on someone else. Maybe you need to look around for one that makes you feel comfortable. Some of them have very nice people. If that tiny part of you wants to give it a try, use that tiny part to make your husband happy (in marraige i thought you were supposed to compromise and make eachother happy)
2007-11-05 09:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by holly m 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My advice is that you should not go to church services until you are ready to listen with an open mind. If you go in there feeling hostile toward organized religion or toward God, it will do you no good. You won't hear the beauty of the message.
What you need, if you truly do want to engage in spirituality, is to speak to a pastor one-on-one. But it needs to be a pastor who you trust and whose thoughts you have decided are worth listening to.
Just any old pastor won't do, because any old pastor won't know about your issues and might try to talk to you as s/he would to any parishioner. It is very important for you to choose the pastor, rather than going by the luck of the draw.
You might consider looking for a Methodist church to visit. I am Catholic, but I was very impressed with a Methodist minister I met while in college, and he performed my wedding ceremony. I found him to be practical and realistic in his sermons, and he did not constantly quote Bible verses at me.
I wish you the best of luck and a fruitful journey. :)
2007-11-05 10:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by Chantal G 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to find the way to connect with God that works for you. Not everyone connect to God through Jesus. Many other religions exist, some even are open to the best in spiritual ideas from many sources. I believe religion needs to be more like science, in that it should be open to new and better idea at any time.
2007-11-05 09:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by astrogoodwin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That tiny part of you that wants to give it a try may be God trying to give you an opportunity that you will never regret. The bible says that we only need faith the size of a mustard seed (which is very very tiny) and we can move mountains. Not literal mountains, of course, but mountains in our lives.
I would support my husband, and give church a chance. Visit several if necessary, until you find one that feels right for both of you. Good luck and God bless.
2007-11-05 09:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by Faye 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Getting involved with almost any church is like hitting the beehive with a stick... you'll get stung. Whether you believe or not, don't do it through a church... find your own path.
If you'd like the social interaction, start joining fun activity groups, not chruch groups.
2007-11-05 10:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
In the bible there was a man who had trouble believing Jesus could bring his daughter back from the dead.
Mark 9:24 And straightway the father of the child cried out, and said with tears, Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief.
If you need help to have belief, just ask God. God can forgive your anger and help you through it.
2007-11-05 09:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by twincrier 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋