am very scared. my ex is in jail and i am scared because im scared ofd when he gets out that he will come hurt me, kill me maybe.. but they think that he will walk nov. 7. that he will get out. what can i do to calm myself down. and what can i do if he comes to hurt me? they also think that he is going to play really sweet and get back with me and stuff then hurt me.. im scared??? by the way we dated for 6 years so...
2007-11-04 23:13:57 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know that it is difficult because you were together for 6 years. but you said he is ex. second, what did he do that he is in jail? kill someone? he use violence? how was he in your relationship? even the answers you will give to your self, one is sure. you have to calm down and try to be yourself. you already have in mind that there is a possibility to visit you, so don't be afraid. and if you still can't be calm, then you have to have someone with you when you are out even when you are at home. that will help you calm because there will be someone near you in case that womrthing will happen.
if you don't want to be hurt, you will not let him approach you. you already know what you want and that it won't be difficult. it up to you. do you want to be hurt or to move on with your life. besides you have all the time of your life infront of you so i think you can do it. just have trust to your self girl!!!!
good luck!!!!!
2007-11-04 23:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by ALEXANDRA-MARIA S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. How come he is sent to jail?
2. Why would he kill you?
3. You said he is your EX, and now is not, right?
4. Dated for 6yrs, how did you break up?
Your question is too complicated without explaining the real circumstances that had been occurred between you and this guy.
To get a good protection for your ownself, get an advice from Police Officers or a lawyer so they can give you the accurate way to do to get rid of this guy (your EX).
2007-11-05 07:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by ~o0o~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
If you are scared of what your ex will do then you must know why your ex wants to hurt you, no mention of what the problem is therefore one can't make a comment on it.
You need to go for advice from a professional source to iron out your fears they will point you in the right direction for certain.
Advice you could move to a completely different area far away, he will never find you if you don't tell anyone where you are going.
2007-11-05 07:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by sidestepper11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you think he'd hurt you? has he been violent in the past towards you? if so, get a temporary restraining order (TRO) against him, you can get this automatically. to get a permanent one, you will need to go to court and tell why you think you need one, such as threats or actual acts of violence. plan to get the TRO the day he is released (it wont make any sense trying to get while he is still locked up). if he violates the TRO, call the cops, he will be arrested. if you're really scared he'll hurt you, then DON'T SEE HIM and make it so he cant see you. sounds like he's got his own legal problems to deal with, and hopefully he won't want to add to it by bothering you. not sure where you are located, but this how things are here. talk to your police department and ask what is necessary to get a restraining order. they will help you with the proper process where you are located and advise you of your options.
2007-11-05 07:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by yahooanswerid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he in jail in the first place? If it's because of you and you think he's mad at you. Don't be scared, report it to the police once there is threatening.
But I couldn't say much about it, you could just maybe stay with a lot of your friends.
Don't be scared. I am pretty sure it won't be a scary mess just like in movies. They're just in movies anyway.
I am pretty sure your boyfriend is not psycho to hurt you.
Sorry couldn't be more of help. Consult your parents and friends :) they will surely be there to help
2007-11-05 07:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by juliette 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well why do you feel that way? There must be a reason for you to be so scared of this man. If he trys to hurt you or threaten you then go to the police immediately and get a restraining order.
2007-11-05 07:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by Jenniferann88 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go and get a restraining order on him. And if you're that scared talk to the police and see if they can have officers watch your area closely! And if he does try and sweet talk you, don't fall for it. The on;y thing I don't understand is why would he want to hurt you or maybe even kill you?
2007-11-05 07:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by tasha82281@verizon.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak to the police and inform them of your concerns. Keep an eye out and if he contacts you, be pleasant to him but tell him you have moved on. If he starts to harass you, get a restraining order. Failing all this, you may have to consider moving or staying with friends for a while. Why would he want to hurt you?
2007-11-05 07:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by Yanda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Restraining order, maybe move but if you can't do that then a restraining order is a start, ooh you could totally get a gun if you're in America too, and make sure nobody gives out your number good luck
2007-11-05 07:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right; by giving into fear you give this man a weapon to us against you - Fight that fear by any means.
As for protection; attack whistles, staying somewhere else for a time, contact the police and get a restraining order - That way if he approaches you then he can be arrested and jailed again. And based upon his previous record; he could afford that.
2007-11-05 07:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by felixrpg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋