I've been dumped?

Question

This guy made me fall in love with him and promised me marriage,kids etc and not long after saying all this dumped me,because he says 'he's better off single'. He should'nt of said all those promises if he was going to do this,i'm still vulnerable after mums death which happened recently. I cant stop thinking about it and cant believe he's done this to me,i wake up every morning feeling anxious,how do i get over this and try stay positive?

Answer 1

The best way to get over him and stay positive is by thinking IT'S HIS LOSS NOT UR'S

There will be other men, he and you just wasn't meant to be and now you now how he really feels about you, i suggest you have a big long cry and that should help shift some grief for the break up and over your mother. Men are more work then what they are worth.

Answer 2

Unfortunately, things like this happen, and you just need to deal with it. The best way to heal fast is to be with other people; go out as much as possible; join a club or volunteer; you will meet new people and have purpose and feel better about yourself as well. Guys like him are far too selfish to consider how you feel or what they should have said or not, etc the good thing is he's out of your life and you wouldn't want someone that selfish anyway.
So either join a club or volunteer somewhere; nursing homes, zoos, museums, anywhere you can and you will find yourself a whole new interesting and productive world out there.
I'm so sorry about your mum; I lost mine too a few years ago and it still haunts me; I dream about her almost every single night and I have her photo right next to my PC and I talk to her every day.

Answer 3

Sorry hun that you are feeling so rotten at the moment. What you must do is think positively that if he does not love or want you/marriage then it's better you found out now before committing yourself to him.
Pick yourself up and get yourself out with friends and family. Don;t mope about what may have been as that will make you feel worse.
In time the hurt will heal and you will find the right person.

Answer 4

I lost my dad recently , and though thats hard for me as it is hard for you too, some people because they haven`t been through something that emotional do not fully understand just what pain your going through. It could be that he was scared to stay around because he couldn`t cope with what he was seeing you go through, or and this is the minority of guys n girls, he got or tried to get what he wanted and then just decided to move on. sadly either way it doesn`t make any of it easier for you, but if he can do that to you after promising all the things in life that you wanted, then is he really worth crying over, in my eyes i`d think yeah this hurts like hell, but i`ve got the loss of my mum to deal with and think to yourself as much as you probably care for him, it`s probably best that it`s happened now instead of 2- 3 weeks/months/years down the line. It`s hard, but the right guy will blow you off your feet when you least expect it, and he will give you all you want and deserve, and on another note, you haven`t lost your mum, she may not be with you in body, but she`s always there to make sure your okay, t care (p.s i`m not religeous or a nut case, i`ve been there and it keeps me going) x

Answer 5

I'm so sorry about your mum. this was a mean thing for this man to do, I hate men who do this and knew you were still getting over your mum, don't even give him a thought hold your head high and think yourself lucky that you did'nt married him had children and then he dumped you, you deserve better than that, I would not enter into another relationship yet, give yourself some time to collect your thoughts, and give yourself time to get over the loss of your mum, I know I've been their, it will take a little time, but when your ready you will be able to face the world again, goodluck.

Answer 6

Try to be with friends a lot more, and don't think all of those promises. Think about how much of an a-hole he is. that would make you feel better.

Also, as I mentioned, hang out more with friends, join a club or something.. go to pubs to meet more friends, and be interested in other hobbies.

I am sorry about what happened to you. If you are religious, you could go to church and make yourself peaceful there.

Whatever makes you happy unless it's not about that guy, go for it :)

goodluck and I hope things will get better with you :)

Answer 7

Well this guy is obviously not worth it right?? Hes self centered and obviously does'nt know a good woman when he sees one. =) Ignore the fact this ever happened. Its awful when you beat yourself up everytime you think of something like this! Sometimes you think it aint worth living. But its pointless thinking all that stuff. Hang out with friends, go shopping or just find someone beter. Hope you are ok. =)

Answer 8

Just keep telling yourself that he's a waste of space and you're better off being without him because he's a liar. Also remember, he's just lost the best thing that ever happened to him, whereas you've just been saved from a rocky future

Answer 9

You are a wondeful person, a unique human being that no one, not even this man who promised you the world, should slag off.

Wake up every morning and say to yourself: "I am a beautiful person, a wonderful person who God loves". This will make you feel so good, that soon you will forget that man who caused you so much pain.

Good luck to you!!!

Answer 10

Get your best dress out and hit the night clubs... You may think this will make it worse, but trying to get over it is much easier than letting it destroy you.

This man is a fool and it will come back to haunt him so very badley. I know this sounds silly but every night imagine yourself surrounded by gold light. It helps the mind come to terms with things...

Im sorry about your mother xxx