My sister has 2 young children who I am very close to.Within 2 weeks of splitting with the kid's father,my sister met a new man and had him move in.He is on parole,came right from a drug rehab center,and things got worse.I started to notice his inappropriate behavior with the younger of the 2 kids.I talked to my sister about it but she said I was being paranoid.Showers,backrubs and other worrysome things continued between him and this child,and eventually I called child services.They were extremely concerned and have recently told my sister an investigation will be done.My sister has found out that it was I who made the report and has said I will never see her children again.I spend time with these kids everyday,we live next door to each other and I take care of them while my sister works.This is breaking my heart.I understand her feelings of betrayal but I felt it needed to be done.How can I explain & get her to listen when she'll have nothing to do with me?Was what I did wrong?
2007-11-04 22:43:21 · 8 answers · asked by Ava =) 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you feel in your heart that the children were in danger then you did the right thing.Your sister just broke up with her husband and now has another man her mind is probably in a different world she is not seeing clearly..To let another man move in after2 wks right out of rehad is not a good thing.to let any man move in is not good..I would just talk to my sister and let her know how you felt and what you saw to make you make the decision that you made.hopefully she will understand good luck
2007-11-04 23:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What happens in the long term depends on the results of the investigation. If he is found innocent then I would think it would be very hard for the relationship between you and him, and you and your sister, to survive. And he will, rightly, be furious that you made such a damaging assertion about him to the authorities.
If, on the other hand, your suspicions were well founded then you have done the right thing in that we all have a duty to protect children. However, that does not mean your sister will necessarily thank you for what you did.
It is a difficult situation, and you have acted from the best motives. Your conscience should be clear.
I think you can only wait and see.
2007-11-05 06:51:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
you cannot live your sister's life for her, but you did the right thing for the sake of the children. they are innocent and need protecting, i applaud you, it must have been a very difficult decision. if the authorities were worried then you were right to do what you did.
you should just always be there for her, even though she said you will not see the kids again, she will come round, then maybe you can explain to her that you were'nt trying to ruin her life but you had a duty to look out for the kids as a caring aunt! hope that helps!
2007-11-05 06:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by blue_lagoon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you didn't do anything wrong and you should continue to be vigilant. Your sister is choosing this loser over her kids, she's the sick one.
Unfortunately she is going to have to have something horrible happen before she gets a clue. I would contact the children's father, he has rights to see his kids and protect them from this man as well. Also, you might want to get in contact with his parole officer. He may be a sex offender, and not allowed contact with small kids. Continue being an advocate for these kids, their mom apparently is willing to sacrifice them for someone to have sex with.
2007-11-05 08:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing and if you are proved right then you protected the children, which is the main thing, your sister needs to realise that there are a lot of men who prey on single mothers to get to their children.I hope in time she can see you acted out of love.
2007-11-05 07:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by tracie9630 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you ewere right. it is she who is betraying her children by ignoring what is going on and moving a man in within that space of time. i suggest you tell her just that and to put her children first.
2007-11-05 07:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by D B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No what you did was not wrong to answer that part you did what was best for them.
2007-11-05 06:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by Ricki R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think u have done the right thing.
2007-11-05 06:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by jimmybond 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋