Met a lady over a year ago, we liked each other a lot but I kind of messed her around in the process as I wasn’t sure if I wanted a relationship and lead her on slightly. She did a lot for me in the process by even putting a TV on credit for me as a favour worth 1,500 and was there for me through alot of things. I ended things as I really liked her but didn’t want a relationship at that time I didnt want to deal with all of that then. I started to loose respect and treated her like crap. telling her things like go and get a man and stop callin and texin me!! I said I was going to give her back her money no doubt about that, so that I could get her off my backas I didnt want a relationship with ANYONE she would find an excuse to call, she then said dont wori about the TV ANYMORE! & since then she has not bothered calling and the number that I did have for her just goes to voicemail. the last time that I had any contact with her was in july sometime. Do you think she has moved on now?
2007-11-04 22:02:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The thing is many of times she would say that she is going to move on and wouldnt but this is the longest that she hasnt contacted me. Do you think she has moved on or is she trying to prove a point?
2007-11-04 22:02:33 · update #1
Thankfully for her, it sounds like she woke up and has moved on. There is only so long you can expect someone to wait and put up with being treated like dirt. Why do you even care she's done exactly what you told her to do?
2007-11-04 22:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by awaywiththefairies1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you were mean to her and disrespected her and she gave you chances and tolerated your behavior. She probably saw something in you that she really liked, at that time.
I fully believe she has moved on. Why would anyone stay or try to stay with someone who is obviously not wanting them?
That was four months ago. If you know where she is, I would send her a cashiers check for the TV since she did it as a favor to you, not a gift. Do it anonymously, or just have the same store send her a gift card anonymously. I have done that for my family as they are proud and won't take gifts when they are struggling.
Next time, be open and honest from the beginning.
2007-11-05 06:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
K don't mean to sound rude but.... can you blame her for doing so if she has??
She sounds like a really nice lady, and you kinda DIDN'T give her the same treatment she gave you.
She probably has moved on buddy seeing as she isn't answering your calls cause if she hadn't moved on, i'm pretty sure she'd answer aye.
Either that or she's grown bitter over time and lost feelings, cuz seriously?...it does NOT feel good when you get mucked around by a guy, i'm speaking from experience. To have your feelings toyed around with is one of the WORST feelings in the world, it's honestly devastating.
But in saying that, SORRY mate, hope i haven't offended you, just tryna put it planely.
2007-11-05 06:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mz_Friendly 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably and it sounds like the thing that happened to you is this and you should learn from it for your next situation whether it is with her or someone else.
There wasn't enough communication going on when you were with her.
I was with this girl once for about two years and i really liked her, but because of my situation, i didnt want to get serious with her, but she did. But because we never quite got that comfortable with eachother and we didn't talk that much, and when we did it was usually just catching up since we talked last, and so i didnt know that she was really serious, and i just couldn't figure her out. Then one day she says she wants something more serious, and she needs to move on.
So, it was a tough learning lesson, and sometimes that's the only reason why you meet someone...Just to prepare you for the next one, and to make you better than before.
2007-11-05 06:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by sharky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'm pretty sure she has moved on by now. Dude, the last time you talked to this chick was 5 months ago. You need to move on as well. Like you said, you didn't wanna be with her.
2007-11-05 06:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by ZACH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably done both... I wouldnt hang around waiting for a guy to "make up" his mind either, even more so one who "jerked" me around...
There are plenty of other fish out there... So hopefully, she's met a nice guy who does want a relationship with her..
Sometimes its better to just cut your loses and move on!
2007-11-05 06:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by Inquiring Mind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude--quite flattering yourself. The reason she had been contacting you is because 1500 is a LOT of money.
Doing that to someone that did a lot for you shows poor character.
2007-11-05 06:07:38 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ode, do u think gurls have time for you. she's just looking for someone to cuddle her and give her some nice doggy.
i bet you she found one already, slaker.
just move on yourself
2007-11-05 06:06:55 · answer #8 · answered by Leo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,,send her a check for the T.V, if I was her I'd call it in as stolen and make you prove it was not!!
2007-11-05 06:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
woooooooooow............................
do u have a heart beating in your chest?..........u treated her like pure crap.......and now that she has obviously moved on u now realize ........wait a minute...this was a good one ...i think i want her.........and .....uh wellllllllll................it a little too late..........if your lucky she is stupid enough to call u yet once again.....if u do truly now realize u care for this kind girl........and she does call u ever again........i hope u have the since to treat her like gold!.........
2007-11-06 10:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋