How can i tell a girl im in love with her without ruining our friendship? (we ve been friends 4-5 years)?

Question

I really love her i dont know though how to approach her i m just afraid of beeing dumbed. And i want so badly to be with her.Im also kinda afraid because those two times i told a girl i loved her i was dumped.She is preatty but im not that good and i dont know how it ll end up.Either i tell her and we end up together or she dumps me or i dont tell her and i became miserable cause i didnt. please boys and girls, laydies and gentlemen help me. ( sorry for any mistake i did because im from greece and im only 14 years old)

forgot to mention im 173 cm @ 65kg. Im too fat???

Answer 1

i know how you feel :/ i've been rejected from a guy (friend)..and i also rejected a friend.. and i think it hurted me more when i rejected because i know what it's like being @his place...anyway ya i feel ya but i can't think of another way. unfortunately some things are all or nothing. you either tell her how you feel or you just stay put.

but my advice is for you to tell her how you feel. whoever grilled "the truth will set you free" wasn't drunk. may be you'll get hurt..may be you will be surprised but whatever happens you will be free from wondering if she likes you and "what if"..

if you want to be 100% sure before you talk to her (about your feelings) look into her eyes.. when you talk look into them and if you see this "spark" she probobly likes you.. i like this guy now and i didn't want to tell him so i just looked into his eyes (few days ago) and i had this intuition that he likes me (though i'm personally going to shut it because i don't want a bf right now :) ). it may sound dumb but it works. if the girl doesn't "just look" at you and she STARES at you then there's a huge differance..

hope this helps :D

Answer 2

You are very young and have many years ahead of you. You are really too young to date.

Just stay being friends with her. If you are just friends, it is ok to tell her that you are very glad you are friends and that you treasure her friendship.

It is always going to be unknown as to what will happen in a relationship. That is normal. It is frustrating at times not knowing, but sometimes good that we do not know or you may alter things that shouldn't be altered.

You need to be confident in who you are. You don't sound like you give yourself enough credit in the looks department. Be proud of who you are. God didn't make any ugly people. You are special and you are kind. If we went by how others looked all the time, that is shallow and not worth whomever judges you by your looks. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You may think that someone is gorgeous and others think that person is just ok.

Continue to be friends and just let her know her friendship means a lot to you. Best wishes to you.

Answer 3

Look Shorty,
It's time to get a taste of life's lessons on love. If she's just a friend then leave it alone and don't crack for the booty. If she's the type of friend that confides in you about other boys, tells you her likes and dislikes, treats you like you're one of her girlfriends, she's not going to give you the booty anyway. If she tells you that you're like a brother to her, sorry, no booty's coming your way. If, however, she cries on your shoulder every time a boy hurts her or disappoints her and you're there for her. You comfort her and reassure her that this too, shall pass, one day she's gonna think about all the times you've been there for her and she's going to reward you with a consolation shot of booty for putting up with her. Don't rush it though, it may take weeks, months, or maybe years, but if you hang in there, payday's coming.