I grew up in a very strict military family. At age 18 I met a wonderful man who happened to be 32. We dated, fell in love and decided to travel around the world together. My father wasn't happy with the idea of me being with a older man and he told me that it was my boyfriend or him. I chose my boyfriend.
After traveling around the world and living together for a year and half we were married in December. I am now expecting a baby this December. Should I let them know I am expecting?
2007-11-04 19:38:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honey, no matter how strict my own beliefs, if I was your father I would be heartbroken if you didn't, and I found out some other way. Do they even know you're married? Please, find a way to get back in touch. Your dad's fatherly pride has been hurt, so he'll probably be a bit gruff, but his heart will be aching. God bless you, and I hope it works for you. Hope this helps.
2007-11-04 19:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by SKCave 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do they know that you are married? Maybe after they find out that you two are married, they will realize that you both are serious about the relationship. Grand kids seem to change people also. Hopefully they will put their feelings behind them and start over fresh. At least give them the chance. If they are not receptive, then go on with your life and remember you did all you could. I am sure that it is hurtful what has happened, but to make a new start, the past has to stay in the past on both sides!!!
Good luck to all of you and certainly congratulations.
Best wishes for your new family.
2007-11-04 19:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should, they will be grandparents and should at least be informed of the situation. Try telling them just after Thanksgiving. They should know you are well and happy too that is always the best of Christmas presents.
If you are afraid to call write a letter to your Mom or call her directly sometimes Dad can get very worried about their kids and don't want them to make mistakes. But those that have some sense will see its okay, it won't be a perfect relationship but you should make the effort to reconcile.
If things don't work out then make a family with your husband and child and try again in 5 years.
2007-11-04 19:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What would you be comfortable with?
Parents are parents, yes, but they have to earn the right to be part of your life, and it doesn't sound like they gave it their best shot...
Its your life, your baby. If you don't feel comfortable contacting them or telling them, then don't. You don't owe them anything, you are a married woman with a family, they are the most important thing to you now.
But if you hope the baby will mend broken bridges or you just want to share the good news with them and feel ok with contacting them and telling them, then go ahead.
The most important thing is that you are comfortable in your decision, not anyone else.
Good luck, congratulations on your baby!
2007-11-04 20:06:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you're interested in pursuing a future relationship with your parents. If not, then you don't need to tell your parents. In fact, I would go so far as to say it's none of their business unless you as an adult, choose to have a relationship with them, but it wasn't you who rejected them. They rejected you. Why open up old wounds when you're having a baby so soon? Besides, they'll probably just be even more upset because you're not legally married to the guy meaning that they'll bring up new wounds. I say forget 'em! They're your parents, they gave you life and owed you support as a child, but you're an adult now and you don't owe them anything! It's not as if you asked to be born.
2007-11-04 21:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't tell your parents about your pregnancy, then your belly will.
In all honesty, what can they really do now. It has been done and there is no undoing. You are grown. It's not like they can spank you. I would tell them.
This baby just might be the answer to rebuilding that broken bridge between you and your family. This baby just might bring you all together. -God Bless you and your family.
2007-11-04 20:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you get married (which I find odd that he hasn't done this yet considering you are due next month...and that should send A HUGE message not to expect a wedding ring anytime soon), I wouldn't.
It will just prove their point that if he really loved you, he would have married you the day after he found out you were pregnant.
That is what a RESPECTABLE and responsible man does.
Marriage gives you legal protections that living together doesn't give you...so ask yourself...why doesn't he want to make that kind of commitment but wants all of the benefits of marriage and none of the obligations?
2007-11-04 19:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by Expert8675309 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
do u mean u married without ur father's concert. if u did so that means u didn't ve the regard for ur father at the first time because if the marriage was properly done u shouldn't ve the fear to share the good news to them.
2007-11-04 19:53:58 · answer #8 · answered by osuya r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. Send a letter with a return address. Call them. Do whatever you can to make ammends..it's up to them to be the right grandparents and get over it.
2007-11-04 19:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by Lynn A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES!
They were, still are... And ALWAYS be your parents!
Children / teens always listen to their parents. Sometimes the parents are right, sometimes are wrong.
You are still their daughter and they are still your parents, always remember that!
Good luck to you and your husband!
2007-11-04 19:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by Sam IT 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋