At work the other day, I was told that my co-worker, whom I work very closely with, had made two basic complaints about me to management. The complaints were 1) sometimes she can't find me, and 2) she feels as though while she is on break I don't get enough work done. Well, we are both in nursing, and often times one of us will be pulled into a room to assist with something as directed by our supervisors. It is expected and we all know that. Due to the nature of our jobs there is alot of times when things can get incredibly busy and although we are working...we don't always get as much done as we would like. My problem is instead of my co-worker coming to me with this problem, she spoke to 3 other co-workers, plus management. Tomorrow I will see her for the first time since all this happened. What should I do in regards to her and dealing with this. I asked other co-workers if they felt the same way as she did about me, and they all said no, that they find me to be a good.
2007-11-04 17:37:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Health Care
It happens that the boss on is also my friend, and told me what had taken place..My boss/friend told me that she is doing this alot lately, & about alot of the staff (possible job burnout). Anyway, I just wish she would have spoken to me about it so that we could have discussed it, and arrived at a comprimise. As far leaving the workstation unattended, the entire wing is where we are, so I am not leaving it unattended. I just really hope things go smoothly, as I dislike problems like this.
2007-11-04 17:56:16 · update #1
She felt she couldn't talk to you and shared her feelings with the boss. Who knows why but the boss shouldn't have told you.
First never talk to the boss about anything you don't want broadcast. Next think about anything you could do to change the perception. Maybe when she gets back from break tell her what happened while she was gone.
Remember the boss might have been lecturing her and she was trying to deflect blame or was asking how to handle finding you when she got back.
What does the company policy say about leaving your station unattended?
2007-11-04 17:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think before you react; I suggest that you do not say anything to her because it may be taken incorrectly and based on your temperament level it may get out of control. Do as she did follow the chain of command. Be honest with you and your team members/staff are you getting away with doing as less as possible and making it so uncomfortable for your co workers to the point that they have to go to management about your actions? Always treat others the way you want to be treated, we all know that we have slackers in the work place and the only way that the situation can be corrected is to follow the chain of command. This should also be in your employee handbook. What ever you decide to do in the end, please remember this issue was brought up for some reason and the same people that you asked if they had any problems with you may have told her other wise. I am not trying to get you to not trust your co workers I just want you to be accountable for your own actions and not try to find fault in someone else if you know that you are a slacker. Be honest with yourself. If you need and want to keep your job, you will do the right thing.
GOOD LUCK
2007-11-04 17:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by momview 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, I believe people criticize in others the things they don't like about themselves..that is their own faults. From what you say about her going to coworkers and management, she sounds deceitful, dishonest and very insecure. It may be that you are actually a better worker than her and she is not happy about that. How is the person that made the complaint on you as a worker? Does she do her fair share of the duties, or does she slough off menial tasks and keep the interesting tasks to do? Is there a promotion in the near future that you and her will be competing for? Also, is the person that told you of the complaint made against you reliable? Is that person in a supervisory position over you, her or both? You call her a coworker, so I will take it that she does not have supervisory status, thus she is not in a position to assign nor monitor your work. What I would do when you return to work tomorrow is to act as if you know nothing about the complaints, go about doing your duties. Even be as nice and friendly as you would have been before the complaints..the proverbial 'kill her with kindness'. Don't worry and do the job that you have been hired and trained to do. The complaints are not official or valid until you have been advised by a supervisor and any disciplinary action taken. Good Luck to you.
2016-04-02 05:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like your coworker has a problem with direct confrontation, or perhaps is insecure in her own practice so is trying make herself look better by making others look bad. In either case, I would take a day to before speaking with her to try and put things in perspective and see if you can figure out what her motivation is in the meantime, then definetly approach her in an open, non-threatening manner. In the meantime, continue to do your job to the best of your ability . If your boss is your friend, you may be under higher scrutiny by your coworkers, wondering if you are receiving any special treatment. But if you are doing a good job and your share of the work, this will soon be a non issue. Best of luck and remember all workplaces have situations like this that you will have to deal with. Dont give if more attention than it deserves.
2007-11-04 21:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is jealous of you. I would be civil but I think your "closeness" is over - if it was ever there in the first place. I would just do your job and socialize with the other staff. If you wants to talk to you then she should make the first move, b/c if you go and talk to her now if might come of as defensive and you trying to justify yourself. If you are doing your job then you don't need to justify yourself. Let her feel akward for awhile. You know the old saying "the cream always rises to the top" - just keep working and doing your thing.
2007-11-04 17:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry yet. It sounds as though your other co-workers think you are doing just fine. If the boss says nothing to you then the boss already knows that you are doing as good as you can. You're worrying over nothing so say nothing to this other person. You don't have to defend yourself. You would only sound guilty if you did that.
2007-11-04 17:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her when the management is there.
Bring it out in the open, get it out of the way.
It will be uncomfortable, but seek some resolution with everyone face to face.
2007-11-04 17:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk it out. Addressing the problem is the only way to fix anything.
2007-11-04 17:40:23 · answer #8 · answered by MiChele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesnt like you, she is back stabbing and not worth your time. just ignore her and do your job as best as you are able to prove her wrong. people will notice the job that you do not what some person says about you and the job you do.
2007-11-04 17:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by searay092003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth girls like you if you tell the truth
2007-11-04 17:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by Adam S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋