im a stay-at home mom, my husband and i hv commitment that we dont leave our childrens to a babysitter or else. my husband strongly said that he is the one responsible earning money for the family.but my mother-in law disagree and say 'things' that depressed me so much,about me not working and not making money.she interfere with my family matters. what to say and what to do? tks b4.
2007-11-04 16:58:21 · 7 answers · asked by angels'mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Does your husband know that his mother is being condescending of you?
If not, he needs to know about it in order for him to make it clear to his mother that the decision for you to stay home with your children is between you and your husband, and has nothing to do with her.
You are making an intelligent decision for the safety and well being of your family, and it is really nobody's business other than your family, meaning you and your husband.
I do not want to encourage you to have a bad or strained relationship with your mother-in-law, but your home is your home and what goes on has nothing to do with her, unless she is asked for an opinion.
The matter is in your husbands hands, it is his mother and he has to be the one to be your families hero and stand up for your decisions.
I wish you the best, you are undertaking the most difficult and important work in the world raising a family in a responsible manner.
2007-11-04 17:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sue F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you struggling financially or asking for financial assistance from the family? I have a friend who is staying home while getting constant calls from bill collectors - I wish her family would get more vocal with her so she doesn't lose her house.
If not, tell your Mother-in-law that you and your husband made this decision jointly and that it is't her place to dispute your decision. If she continues after that, avoid her. If she starts up, walk away. Sounds to me like she might be jealous.
2007-11-04 17:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to nip this within the bud now, earlier than matters get out of manage! When I had my child there have been a few regulations I concept could be understood, nonetheless they were not and whilst I was once within the core of an exam my in legislation barged in, at the side of the sister, her husband and four yr historic little one! I was once totally indignant! If you do not determine a few obstacles you are going to be sorry in the end. Although your MIL helped you out financially, she did it due to the fact she desired to! She isn't Rumpelstiltskin's and can't request your first born for her efforts! LOL! Your husband has to realize that your emotions come first! Do you desire you MIL within the room with you if you have your child? Do you desire individual time to bond and be taught to feed your child? I in my opinion believe that the ones are the moments for a husband and spouse, nonetheless you have to talk up approximately what you desire earlier than it is too overdue. You have the proper to do matters the best way you desire to! You would be the one uncovered and down. So you can not believe unhealthy doing matters the best way if you want to make you such a lot cozy. The handiest factor is that in spite of how best you and your hubby attempt to say matters your MIL is not going to love it, due to the fact it isn't what she wishes to listen to. If hubby explains it to her she is going to haven't any alternative however to recover from it! When and if he does made up our minds to talk along with her, he's going to have got to inform her that it is what either one of you believe is correct. If he blames all of it on then you your MIL shall be pissed handiest at you and take a look at to mention you made your hubby do it and a number of alternative dramatic crap! She gave beginning and raised her kids the best way she noticed are compatible, and now she has to provide you the possibility to do the identical. Your hubby has to help you on the way you believe, due to the fact at this factor stressing you are going to imply stressing your unborn little one and that's no longer healthful. There is not anything incorrect with MIL serving to you, simply endorse that she come a couple of days once you have the child whilst your hubby returns to paintings...that is whilst your new little loved ones will want probably the most support.
2016-09-05 10:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we live in a joint family we must respect each other even in decision making. I hope, follow these 3 three simple steps and definitely could find a solution whether you need to do job or not:
Simple Steps: !!!!.........
Step-01: Sit in round table meeting (3 of you)
Step-02: Open everything before things overlapping (b4 creating misunderstanding)
Step-03: Make decision
2007-11-04 18:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by aims h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to tell her to mind her own business. She needs to keep her opinions to herself. You two have decided what is best for your family and that is no ones business but yours. If she cannot keep her mouth shut I would tell her to stay home until she can. This will work. Stick to your guns and good luck.
2007-11-04 19:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gently tell mother-in-law that you and hubby have discussed your lifestyle and you both came to an agreement and she need not be concerned.
2007-11-04 17:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by csucdartgirl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore your MIL. It's not her business how you and your husband live your life.
2007-11-04 17:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by Shubunkin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋