Just because I am single, that doesn't mean I am alone.?

Question

I am a single, straight, 28 year old male. I have never had a girlfriend, although I have tried dating a little bit when I was 23. I may have gone on 2 or 3 dates total in my entire life. They were ok, but I just felt they weren't for me. I am not a touchy feely kind of person and I am certainly not a romantic. Being in a relationship of that nature just isn't for everyone. I am more into my career and community at this point. People tell me that I will be alone if I never find a suitable lady. Um, I am not "alone" now and I don't have a girlfriend, so why would I be alone when I am older? I have friends and family. In fact, I still live with my family and other adult siblings. Even if I decide to move out one day, I will not be alone. I will always have friends and most likely have family around as well. When I get home from work, 9 times out of 10 I just want to lay down and go to sleep. At the end of the day I don't need to socialize or have someone hang on me. What do you think?

I also take a lot of abuse because I have never "hooked up" with a girl. I haven't even had my first kiss yet, big deal. People say, "You must be gay!" LOL, I find that humorous as I only find females to be attractive. But as I said, I am just not into touching anyone or vice versa. And no I have not been abused, I am just not into touchy feely stuff. Don't try to read too deeply into these things. People are to obsessed with pop psychology these days I think. LOL!

Answer 1

I wouldn't worry too much about what other people say. I know exactly what you are feeling and hearing. I am a 21-year-old straight female, had one boyfriend in my life, never been kissed and never been on a decent date. I know that I am "only 21" as people like to tell me and "my time will come". I am completely involved in my education at the moment. When I am not in school I am at work or doing homework. When I get home from work all I want to do is go to sleep, or finish homework. I don't consider myself one of those touchy-feely people. I completely agree with you and the fact that you are not technically 'alone' because you are surrounded with family and friends. You are also only 28. That is still young. I've found that guys don't start looking to get married or have children until they reach at least 30. Don't get me wrong, sometimes I long to have a special someone in my life, but right now is obviously not the time for me. I know this whole paragraph of mine probably doesn't have exactly the information or answer you were looking for, but I had to answer it because I hear this exact same thing everyday of my life. As I said before, I wouldn't worry too much about what other people say. good luck.

Answer 2

ur story is interesting but to a point that some people might have in common, i am single also even though i have dated inthe past i feel to a certainty the same way u do,sometimes when it seems everybody else is getting married by that age ur still single my opinion is that well if ur not ready or dont feel the need for some company then let it be u dont have to fallow what other people in life are doing sometimes it takes time to find the right person ur trying to find but yeah no one is perfect LOL so i say who cares and what matters the most is how comfortable u are with ur self and how ur living ur life right now.so continue on and dont listen what other people say:)id just ignore them and say its my life and i like it how it is!!

Answer 3

Some people dont need that companionship to be happy. I envy you. Im 20 and find myself in the same spot as you. Verbatem. I wish I could be as strong as you are, but I feel like I will never be happy untill I meet someone. Stay strong bro