Is a parent automatically entitled to their child's respect or is it something that needs to be earnt?

Answer 1

I think respect is something that needs to be *learned*, actually. Some kids have respect for no one because parents never taught them.

Answer 2

Respect isn't something that your entitled to unless you are giving respect in turn. You have to learn how to be respectful in order to be able to show it. If a parent is constantly on a child's case, yelling, demanding, etc. They aren't showing respect and in turn will find that their children will be less respectful towards them and others around them. Children need structure, guidance, teaching and love. There's a fine balance between providing consequences for bad choices and being a tyrannt. Choose the later an you gain no respect in the child's eyes.

Answer 3

Initially a child would respect you for all his world revolves mostly around you. But the reality is that as he/she grows up he/she learns to take their decisions of right and wrong. At this point they would be judgmental about their parents lives.
I think that's the reason that adolescents have differences with their parents. Its how the parents handle these situations that affects the opinions of their children about them.
Respect is therefore earned. As parents everyone expects some gratitude from the child. And children must learn to realize the amount of pains parents take to give them a life keeping apart the differences

Answer 4

Parents should look at themselves and ask themselves how if my behavior worthy of the respect of my teenage child?
Do I take pains to help my elderly parents, or did I dump them into the street and took away all of their money?
Do I cheat and lie to obtain money and job opportunities?
Do I spent more money on the latest fashionable clothes than in the education and wellbeing of my children?
Am I an overprotective zealot that won't even let my 16 year old kid ride a public bus to school?
Do I respect the opinions of my children when they are reasonable?
Do I force my children to think just like me or they are grounded?
Do I force my children to study a university career I see fit in the university I see fit and have everything already planned before the kid is even in highschool without asking what do they think about it?
Do I give them the car and countless money so that they do whatever they fell like all weekend without even calling me so that I know they are okay?
Has my kid ever been arrested and I never made a fuss out of it?
Has my kid tortured animals and I didn't punish them?
Is my kid a bully and did I do anything to stop this behavior?
Do I know what my kid likes, hobbies, friends, etc or am I totally oblivious to their life because I'm so busy with my job?
Do I force my kid to live the dreams I could never fulfill even though they don't like it?

If you've committed any of these mistakes, you can't expect your kid to like you or respect you. You teach a 4 year old respect your elders, etc etc etc, but your actions will determine how your kids see you.

I'm quite serious about how you treat your own parents. If you dump them in the street, your kids will do the same to you.

Answer 5

No, If your parent is a deadbeat who gets drunk every night and doesn't feed you for days then you have every right not to respect them. However there is a difference between not liking your parents and not respecting them. If your parent works hard and goes to their job or keeps the house and does their best to give you a comfortable life, or as close to one as they can provide, then I would say the deserve your respect. Even if they have views or opinions that disagree with your own, or if you often argue, they still provide for you, and that's a hard thing to do. So I guess they have to earn their child's respect, but they don't have to get the child to like them.

Answer 6

Well, in order for them to have respect they need to be taught first. Yes a child should give their parents respect but If they are not taught, shown respect, or given respect then how would they know any different. Its all up to the parents.

Answer 7

I think children should automatically respect their parents until their parents give them a reason not to. Parents are entitled to children's respect at first, but it's up to them to keep the right to the respect. (Although some kids still don't respect them.)

Answer 8

It is a parent's responsibility to take care of all the needs of their child; this is a big job, and definitely deserving of respect. However, the child has to be taught exactly what "respect" is and what it means to respect someone, in order for it to really come across.

Answer 9

Any person is entitled to a child's respect. Parents usually expect more from their children - obedience, trust, love. These have to be earned by being kind, reliable and caring.

Answer 10

Automaticaly entitled. A child is the parents responsibility and the parent clothes, feeds, shelters and takes care of them. If that doesn't demand respect, I don't know what does. And if someone says it should be earnt, then I think all the diaper changes, late nights and worrying when thier sick should be sufficient amount of respect earned.