I want them to divorce!! what do u think?

Question

Ok, I want my mum to divorce my dad because he doesn't treat her well, even though he is the one supporting the whole family. My mum does EVERYTHING for dad, yet he doesn't know that? *well he tried to be "cool" about it and just gives off a smirk everytime I mention it to him. (I mean, would you just sit and watch your wife mow the lawn?!!?) (not only this but there's more to it..just would take AGES to tell everything)

So yehh, I told my mum I wouldn't care if they divorce because I am SO sick of his stupid immature attitude! However, I also feel a bit sorry for him if he has to move out because he wouldn't be able to do anything without my mum's help!! (he doesn't understand/speak english well either)

so yup...i am in a tangle at the moment and don't know if my opinion is right?
i dunno...i'm just confused!!!

actually even mum has said MANY TIMES that they're still married because of the kids
But i am 18 now and I know that what my dad is doing to my mum is NOT APPROPRIATE. He is just so selfish and never takes into account the way my mum feels.
I know it is THEIR marriage, but this is just my opinion...if they divorce, they divorce...
I'm just asking whether others have an opinion on this matter- I mean, if your husband treated u like that, but u still love him and are staying in the marriage only for the kids, what would you do??

Answer 1

Now look. About the only think you can do is tell your mom that you have noticed that your dad treats her badly, and you don't like it. Their marriage status is their business. If your mother were contemplating divorce, I am sure you would have heard about it by now.

You really do not have a say in the matter, no matter what the person posting the answer before me said. It is a decision that only your mother can make. Perhaps she doesn't take it as seriously as you do. Remember, young people have all those puberty issues going on, and sometimes think things are more important than they really are.

You say your dad is supporting the family. Is he physically abusive? Do they fight a lot? If not, just let your mom know you love her, and leave it go at that.

Love is strange. Your mother may really love your dad.

In the marriage vows, the minister says, from the bible: "Whom God hath joined together, let no man put asunder."
That goes for kids, too.

Answer 2

I agree I think this is Their relationship I am sure you think you can relate to it all but believe me there is a lot more involved I can assure you in regards to their marriage and staying together
Your Mom is likely NOT looking to go through after such a long time being alone. She is comfortable and obviously not too unhappy. You say they stay together for the kids. and you are 18. Are there other kids? Are they younger?
if so have you taken them into consideration?

You have said what you felt to your Mom maybe you can speak to your Dad. maybe they are used to doing things this way They are older after all.
Frankly if he is working and paying the bills and not abusing and beating on anyone I say Let them be
My parents lived like that for years till the day they died and when my dad passed my Mom was LOST even though they did not have a happy days Brady bunch type life They were happy comfortable and loved one another in their own ways
Ways that You as a 18 year old would never understand

You have no idea how hard it would be for either of them to make it work on their own. Does you mom work outside the home now?
Do you honestly think she could take on all the bills and responsibilities of home alone? and then live alone (well ok she may have you but alone as in man and woman) too

Let them live a they are and when and IF that time ever comes fine If not well be happy for them

Answer 3

marriage and love are strange. it encompasses everything...., love, hate, anger, frustrations, hope, faith and even loyalty and companionship. Your parents are together till today for one or all of the above reasons. Perhaps u should just give a listening ear or a shoulder to cry on when ur mum is really upset or frustrated. like in all things, time heals all wounds. be grateful that they are together still living a life full of hope and faith that things will work out for them one day. just pray for them will you.

Answer 4

Hi.
Sorry for the above story.
What you should do after trying all this is get a physicalogist as soon as possible and let them handle this out.
If you explain this to your mom and get things in the right way everything will be okay
I hope the best for you.
Best of luck.
Reply.

Answer 5

u are absolutely right! i had to tell my mom to divorce my dad at the time too, and it gave her just the right push to do it, when i told her. i think it made her feel good that she had my support. i hated how my dad was treating her as well, and as it turned out he cheated on her many times in their marriage. so good job!!! i hope everything works out for the best.

Answer 6

yup, exactly how my parents are, only sometimes its my mom who messes it up. if i were you, id tell my dad thats hes being an idiot, and if he doesnt start helpin out, no ones gona be helpin him. (i dont know if you have a brother or sister but talk to them if u take this answer into consideration... if u have any brothers or sisters...) from what youve explained, your mom shouldnt have to do the work. ur dads the one thats supposed to be doin it

Answer 7

It is their marriage try not to voice an opinion.

Answer 8

that's not up to you to do that it's there marriage not yours.