Some of our family is coming for visit for a month, during which I will have to live in our closet of a computer room on the floor. I've gotten past that, but the last remaining problem is that when they come to visit they try to control my life (I'm 15). My parents work all day so when they are gone my relatives tell my brother and I when to do our homework, when to clean, where we can go, who we can go with, and they expect us to occupy their time the entire time they're here. I'm sick and tired of them controlling me, but I don't want to come off as a rude teenager. How can it get this situation under control and loosen their hold over me?
2007-11-04 15:32:26 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Last time they were here a friend would ask me to go to her house and my relatives would eavesdrop and say I couldn't , so I'd ask my parents and they'd say okay. Which made my relatives go into this whole "They aren't going to respect us if you tell them the opposite" thing.
2007-11-04 15:40:55 · update #1
Tell your folks exactly what you have written here. Ask them to talk to the relatives and let them know that you and your brother will make your own schedules, and will make sure and schedule some time to visit with them.
If they will do that, make sure and arrange an hour or so each day (maybe at dinner time) to visit.
Good luck.
2007-11-04 15:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by Cat Lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you have to do your homework and whatever chores your parents expect of you. So you do that and tow the line so you don't get into any trouble.
If their abuse happens before your parents come home from work, then go to a friend's house (or hang out with a favorite teacher after school) and do your homework there until you know your parents are home. In other words, you play "keep away".
Let your parents know these plans, and perhaps the phone number of your friend's house.
2007-11-04 15:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try talking this over with your parents and asking them if it's something they've set up in advance to keep you & your brother "in check". I would tell them how bothersome it is for you and that you'd appreciate if some ground rules were set so that everyone knows their place. It's not fair that they're allowed to come into your home and dictate the rules. That's what you have parents for.
2007-11-04 15:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by Kiki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i were u, i would talk to my parents first. tell them u respect them as your elders, but that you feel they have no right to control u the way they do. im sure your parents wouldn't appreciate them trying to "raise" you and your brother. im sure if u talk to your parents straight up, that you could get them to have a special talk with those controlling relatives, and they can let them know where the boundaries are, such as, if u wanna go hang out with a friend, then you get permission from your parents and no one else.
2007-11-04 15:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just suck it up & before you know it, they will be gone. Just be glad that they don't live w/you on a permanent basis. Stay in your room & act like you are really busy or better yet sick. That is one way of keeping them off your back.
2007-11-04 15:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by hazelkatana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking this over with your parents?? Maybe they dont know this is going on....
2007-11-04 15:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by kcdual 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋