ok im a 16 year old boy and i like this 15 year old girl i want to go out with her, she says she likes me.....

Question

but she says something happened to her the last time she went out with someone and she said she dont know if i would do that to her why does she think that i would do stuff with her like that i would never rape someone thats just wrong plus i told her that i am not going to have sex till im married but she doesnt know if she can trust me i really like her but i just fell like crap im like one and 20 guys that just dont want to go out with a girl for sex i deserve at least a chancewhat do yall think...but my hormones are going CRAZY idk if its puberty or what but i really do have feelings for this girl and i dont get how she can like me but not sure if she will go out with me....

Answer 1

First of all...breathe,and use punctuation marks, for Pete's sake. Second of all, If she is making it this difficult and you are frustrated with her lack of trust in you, move on to someone who will trust you. There is nothing worse to deal with than the lack of trust. That is a sure fire relationship killer. Also, shouldn't you be more worried about graduating a success then dating a girl who won't be yours 100%. I commend you if you are one of those noble guys that aren't after sex and that wants to do the right thing and behave like a gentleman. I feel if she's not willing to trust you and give you the benefit of the doubt, you are much better off waiting till after high school or if you can't wait, you can make plenty of other girls proud to have you as a b/f. Just make sure you pause after every sentence,lol. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Preserve relationship her and then when she turns sixteen in a couple of months time, that you could have intercourse and then be relatively open about your relationship. 16-18 isn't a bad age hole and that i think you must do it. I met my female friend when she used to be sixteen and that i used to be 25, and we have been together 5 years and that's longer than various marriages!! (now we have both got rather good jobs, an strong rental and most of all we really love every other) recall a number of the people who reply on right here will probably be bizarre american citizens, you understand - they suppose sex is disgusting, but buying weapons in a grocery store is ok, so i would not take any advice from that lot with their warped and twisted inspiration of morality. Excellent luck, and if she's a beautiful girl she's valued at keeping hold of. Don't let other humans tell you who to date - it's your lifestyles no longer theirs.

Answer 3

She could like you alot and not want to go out with you. You have to understand that she has been assaulted and it takes alot of time to get over something like that. Some people never live a normal life after being put in a bad situation at the hand of another person. Why don't you just give her time.

Perhaps you can stick to having lunch together at school, studying together in the library and things like that. She has to get to know you and your character before she risks her safety again. By being patient with her, you are showing her that you can be trusted. A lot of people think that just because you are dating that you have to have sex. This is not the case but believe it or not, it is the norm. If you are serious about waiting for marriage, then it shouldn't be any reason why you can't make the situation easier on her by not trying to commit her to time alone with you. That will come in the future, as you too get older. I personally think you both are too young to be dating but attraction is attraction. I think that as long as you keep it innocent and don't make suggestive moves towards her that you will have a healthy relationship that may grow to be something really special. I dated a guy when I was young and he was the prime candidate for a boyfriend and husband, that is until we had intercourse. After that, my whole outlook of him changed. I was in love with him and have never regretted our breakup because I wasn't ready for that and I told him, but he listened to his hormones and friends and pressured me into it. I even hated him for a long time after that. I have since forgiven him but I would never consider seeing him alone again and it has been years (20+).

So, take it slow and be a good friend to her.

Answer 4

Bud this girl has become wise to what all boys want she is right not to trust you or any other teenage boy. If you really like her then you will wait for her, until she feels confortable enough with herself around you to not give in to her urges as well as yours.When I was your age, I was madly in love with a girl who had been "loved and left" and though my feelings were real so were my hormones and desires. And you can't trully expect anyone to believe that you don't have those kinds of feelings towards her too. If you actually did become involved with this girl, its going to go one of three ways. 1 best case scenario, you both fall in love and decide togther to become sexually active, and have a real, loving realationship,2 You just give in to your sexual desires and regret it later, and realize that neither one of you were ready to make such an important decision. or 3 You enter a monogomous relationship with her and really try to wait for her and remain true only to find that your hormones will some day get the best of you when givin half the chance totally ruining any chance of a relationship at all with this girl. Now how that pans out is totally on you, but just remeber you are a young man, and the things you are feeling are totally natural, and there is nothing you can do to change the urges or feelings that your having. we all have them, they never go away, they are just harder to understand and controll when you first start having them as I'm sure that you have.

Answer 5

Your age is the right one for going steady with someone but there are several factors that can cause dating, big problems for you. Here are my advise:

1. You are still a student, so your education is no 1
2. You are still someone who depend on your parents/guardians. Wait until you can earn your own money then you can find girl/partner that you like.
3. When you are out of control, especially your parents are not around, you can do things unexpectedly, like having sex/petting. It is best to avoid these until both of you are mature enough. (responsibility)
4. You can kill the time by playing games or hang out with your friends not by dating.
5. You can help your parents in many ways.
6. You can chat/browse the internet.

Hope these will help.

Answer 6

I know exactly how she feels, i have been through that before when rigght after i turned 16. ask if her she would feel more comfortale if you went with a group of friends, or let her bring a friend, make her feel comfortable, and let her know that is important to you. and tell her that you would never hurt her, and you will do whatever it takes so that she knows that. and take it slow, dont rush her into ANYTHING, or it will make her feel uncomfortable, and uneasy. girls like us are sensitive, cant trust easy, and often uneasy, it takes a very special person, with a big understanding and caring heart for us to open up. so keep in mind that shes been hurt, and needs a special kind of love and care <3 and MOST IMPORTANT make her feel safe***

Answer 7

Trust me bro, it doesn't get any easier for nice guys. If it were me in your shoes, i'd respect her wishes and ask if you'd like to start out as friends and develop trust as you go along. Go out as friends to movies, lunch etc. See where that leads you, but don't force the issue on anything cause that will just cause her to reject you even more. Make sure you don' t end up in situations that might make her uncomfortable like going out at night and what not.

Answer 8

You need to give this girl sometime coz what she has been through is something you cant forget no matter how much you try trust me. keep talking to her and be friends cause in this case you will need to earn her. Im 15 and went through the same thing and still find it hard to trust those im realy close to so keep at it. good luck.

Answer 9

Ask her if she would be willing to go someplace with you with a group of friends. She may feel safer in a group at the moment. Or see if you could take her to a very public place, like the mall. Or, could you just hang out at her house with mom and dad around so that she feels safe. I am sure you could work something out with her.

Answer 10

It doesnt matter whether you will rape her or not. The point is for her, is that someone has done that to her before, and she cannot trust anyone because she fears it will happen to her again. No matter how much you tell her that you will not hurt her, it will take a while for her to regain her tust. So take it nice and slow. Bring her for dinner and dont force yourself on her.